MASTER LGJ Rising seven and the rages have to be seen to be believed ........Please tell me I am not alone

[BreeVanDerCampLGJ]

Because, I got to the end of my rope and I have tied a knot in it.....and I am not sure it is going to hold.

Do rising 7's strop ?

Oh you poor love. Can his dad not put the fear of god into him?

I have been having similar problems with my eight year old. Yesterday I was almost feeling out of my depth with it all. Hope they do overcome it.

Carmenere

When he flips over, it is beyond that. It does not happen too often, now that I have adopeted the attitude of gazing upon them as "entertainment" i.e no reaction.

ds1 will be 8 next week, had the same here too.

keep saying to him " you must feel very angry to be acting like this, when you calm down we can talk about it"

Ok that's what I say in my head, waht I say out loud usually not so good!!

is there any pattern to them LGJ?
do they come at a particular time of day?
what are the triggers?

You are going to think I am nuts, but he has particularly hairy legs, so I made an appointment with the GP, who seemed to think they were a tad hairy for a nearly seven year old. He has referred him, to see if the two are connected.

i.e Hormones.

snap - 7 1/2yr old Ds1 just the same (god help me when he's coping with us separating as well as "being a 7yr old"!)

yep yep yep.....all normal.....and all infuriating!!!

I got 7 and 5yr old boys, and believe me, their testosterone surges creats massive rages.....and they get them around 5/6/7...

lovely when they coincide with the hormone surges the girls gt around 9......which I also have![grrrrr]

you are NOT alone.

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Does he have huge tantrums?

My Ds threw the contents of his bedroom around yesterday, while shouting & screaming at me. This was because I had taken away a toy as a punishment & sent him for time out.
It is bloody hard when they are like that.

Harpsi

Until recently I would have said in the evening when he is tired, but on Friday he totally lost it in the playground before the bell.

I thought I was doing the right thing and when he raised his voice in aggravation, I said very calmly I cannot stay and listen to this, I will see you later.

He ran after me, so I stopped and tried to explain that what had happened and what was happening were not acceptable. He just shouted even more loudly, at which point I flipped and stalked off to the car. He followed behind shouting I have to go to school to learn. It was like something from a sink estate.

I put him in the car, and I got in, he then tried to put the whole thing on me, at which point I had to get out of the car, because I could have quite cheerfully beaten him to a pulp.

DS1 has what DH calls "ginger moments" (he is a red-head). He's also coming up 7. He only ever had one tantrum as a toddler, which I ignored, so that's what I'm trying to do now. Not so easy when he'll soon be as big as me though and the veonom that comes from him . In the car today, I resorted to turning the stereo up very very loud.

oh lgj
is he happy at school?
I do think it sounds incredibly normal, but lord knows that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.
does he do lots of outdoor sport?
I know many of my friends with boys of around this age have encouraged sports like karate/kick boxing
I don't know how you would feel about that

PW

Venom, that is it exactly.

mine gets very cross indeed, he's just 6, & generally very laid back & chirpy. flashpoints seem to be too much playing on the wii, or when i help him with his reading (this makes me ). he does 2 hours of tennis a week, & an hour of karate at the weekend. just started playing out in the garden this week due to improving weather. i think they mostly happen when he's tired, & i can see life is frustrating for him sometimes. no solutions, but bucketfuls of empathy.

Harpsi

He loves school and will try and pretend he is not sick, so he can still go.

He does cross country once a week and football once a week. They also have Chelsea (football training once a week in school time) and also P.E. Added to which at least one of the days over the weekend, he will walk or cycle a mile or two.

Thanks guys, it appears to be a case of hunker down and wait for the worst of it to pass.

Off to grab remote from DH.

Will check back later.

oh my good lord. I thought tantrums and rages stopped at four. You mean after 18 months of this already I may have another 5 years to go?

thud

I'm sure you are right, I'm sure it is testosterone, he is a lovely well-behaved child who has been well loved and well brought up. Not indulged, not spoilt, so the answer must be hormonal. I am no expert in small boys though, do talk to the gp about it. xxx

oh bugger

It's tough, this dragging bringing up kicking and screaming children lark.

Hormone surges sound likely. Not that it helps you. Just that you know that as such, he can't really help his rages. He's not doing it on purpose iykwim?

QV

I was going to post this on Friday evening, but it would appear you were first in the queue.

See how much I love you. I just posted huge hugs and wandered off to rock in a corner.

its not just boys. dd2 has been having strops for over a year, and on saturday she was like a demon child. we had tears, tamtrums, screeching, and generally being a PITA.

all because i had said no to ice cream BEFORE dinner.

Carmenere

Thank you.

xxx

Misdee

You are such a meany mommy...

i get told that a lot

especially by dd1.

[sighs]

just got to gett he other two past this stage, then puberty.

i am so so looking forward to it.