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How much time is ok for 4yo to spend alone??

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Hooplahooping · 09/09/2023 10:02

My 4yo DD (rising 5, just started reception) is pretty socially anxious. Will chat endlessly about everything to adults he knows, but seems a bit non plussed by his peers.

He LOVES his Lego - and would, if unchallenged, spend hours by himself in make believe world in his bedroom with Lego characters. I worry that this is just compounding his anxiety - and I don’t like him to be on his own so much. - he’s happy to involve me in his games if I go up - but DS2 is an 18 month old menace so it’s not feasible to do that all day.

he’s happy to run around at the park when we go, loves a book or the occasional cartoon. But it would never be his first choice.

is this a phase (we’re 18 months in to it) - or do you think I need to be firmer about him being social. He’s currently spending about 2hrs a day after school / 4 hours a day at weekends in solo Lego land…

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Fairydustxox · 09/09/2023 23:58

Could he not bring Lego downstairs so he is more included?

Hooplahooping · 10/09/2023 12:42

That would be an extremely sensible start. And I probably need to chat to other parents + school gate + find fellow Lego enthusiasts in his class who could come over and do it with him…

I was such a social kid I find it hard to imagine not wanting to be around other people. I don’t need him to be like me, but I want to encourage some practice relating to peers so that he doesn’t end up isolated.

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