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I would love to hear from any other parents with rude and difficult four or five year olds. I am really really struggling, and feeling lonely.
My daughter turned five in August. Four was a hard year. She has always been the loveliest child, but the rudeness started. She shouts, she says horrible things. She will shout at the top of her voice, in our faces, scream… We never shout at her or each other like that, so she hasn’t got it from us.
At school and with grandparents she is perfectly behaved. Top of the class, loves school, a very sweet girl. But she is so rude to me, it’s hard not to feel like she specifically hates me.
I genuinely think me and DH have parented her really well (ha) and can’t see where we’ve gone wrong. We give her space to talk about her feelings, lots of quality family time and time outdoors, no iPads/phones and very little tv time each day.
She is very clever and I sometimes think she is being calculating and trying to upset me on purpose. I know that’s awful.
Has anyone else had this with a five year old, who later grew out of it?
Anyone else going through this now?