My baby is 9 weeks old and has started to have a real aversion to her dad. If he tries to pick her up or cuddles her she will cry straight away. We’ve even tried him just sitting closely next to us while I’m holding her and she will start to cry.
I feel so sorry for DH because he comes home from work and is excited to spend time with her and can’t because she gets so upset.
Is there anything we can do to help the situation? DH has been involved and stuck in with nappy changing, playtime, bathtime, having her in the carrier and all the things that will support them bonding already.
We’ve discussed trying:
- leaving her with DH while I leave the room hoping that eventually she will stop crying and will realise there isn’t anything to be worried about.
- DH spending time alongside me and gradually getting more involved e.g. reading her a story while she’s sitting on me etc.
I feel really uncomfortable just leaving her when she’s getting so upset but also don’t want DH to never get to hold her. It’s not as bad as it is for DH, but I’m also finding it hard never having a break from holding her. As much as I love cuddles with her, I sometimes just want 5 minutes to do a job around the house!