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So since watching these recent Tik-toks about people sharing their ADHD symptoms, me and my partner used to joke that he was ADHD, even his mum said as a child she suspected he was but just never saw the point in getting a diagnosis.
Then recently I started seeing some traits in my 5 year old, these traits haven't just appeared she's carried most of them since around the age of 2 so I can remember. Some of these include not being able to sit still - sitting at a table is near impossible unless he is watching something, she'll swing on chairs, lay across them, get up several times etc.
She has been pulled up many times, not only by us as parents but from teachers for being very impatient and interrupting conversations until she is responded too. She is so intelligent which I think may shadow any suspicion of ADHD but what's bringing this to light is her meltdowns. I have always said she has struggled with emotional development, since two if she didn't get what she wanted she would immediately throw herself to the floor face first. Over the summer holidays if she is told no she will ask over and over again, not giving in and then eventually leading to a complete meltdown.
Today while getting her uniform she asked me for some jewellery but I had said no because I had only bought enough money for uniform. She continued to ask for a good ten minutes and then she would start saying "you're unkind" "you're being rude to me". In my head I thought, I can't do this. This isn't letting up and we're out in public. I know I shouldn't care what people think but actually it bothers me knowing that people are looking at your child judging them. So I put the items I'd picked up back and said let's just go. Immediately she went into full rage, kicking, screaming, throwing herself on the floor, hitting me, telling me I'm the baddest mummy ever. Even a fellow mum turned to me and asked if I was okay. I felt to get in the floor and cry myself if I'm honest.
This continues to the car and she's refusing to get in, I'm having to physically force her in my car. I can't even put her seatbelt on her. I'd shut the door and she's punching the windows still continuing to lose it and in the end I just lost it. I did shout. All the way home I just cried because I thought how has this just happened?!
Now I'm sat here thinking, we'll is there something else? She's 5 is this normal? I just don't know!
Please no horrible comments I'm just a mum asking for some advice🙏🏻