Anyone else having a shit Mothers Day? Make me feel better!

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So up from 3am because dd3 (8 mths) is under the weather.

DD2 (2.5) gets up at 7am. DP says he will get up with her but makes such a noise wakes up dd3 who starts crying in her crib and ds1 (5). Try and ignore DD3 thinking maybe DP will come upstairs and get her. Doesn't work.
Get up change her nappy and try to go back to bed doesn't work. Go downstairs and end up making myself coffee. DP does lots of whinging about being tired.

Try to sneak back to bed. No luck, lots of shouting and then I hear that DD2 (satan in disguise) has in fact ripped up the mothers day card she made me 'because she hates flwoers'. Burst into tears - no sympathy from DP - says it's only something that the nursery made. Said its not the point.

Go out for breakfast, DD2 has a huge tantrum. End up rowing with DP in the street as my policy is to ignore, his is to bollock in loud voice.

Come home, DD2 then gets put in bedroom for being naugthy. I feel shit and unappreciated.

Anyone top that?

Didn't have the best Mother's Day by any stretch but not the worst either...
Teething 4 mo, tantrumy 2yo and
Row with DP who reckons cos I see friends with kids through the week that that is "time to myself"

Ladies I bet you are wonderful mums and you deserve much more appreciation than you are getting. It will get better, it has to and I need to believe it will...

I fully plan on buying myself nice flowers and chocs tomorrow as I value how much I do for this damn family even if no one else does!!!

for all of you xxx

I hear you! But I actually miss those days when they were younger, because now it's my husband who's become the baby with the tantrum, he's the one who keeps wanting to pick. the kids are over 10 yrs old now. You wait til the become teenagers, school homework is so much these days that it really upsets them and there are times they feel like giving up and just playing computer games instead. The weather is cold and there's nothing else to do out there, because everything costs money, and my husband always seems to want to blame me.

Mother's Day was all about trying not to feel nervous. Trying to keep the peace. Got nothing from them. They're turning into their father. They were my babies. He was a lot nicer to them when they were little. Then it all changed and he became rude and impatient. He's true colours came out. He was never a calm person.

I just sat and cried. And I still never get a full nights sleep, I can't sleep. Now it's all about keeping the peace and worrying about exams. And worrying about him picking, it's all he wants to do, just proove I'm wrong. It's like he doesn't like his family anymore. I know it may have something to do with his mother who wants him to move back. She's slways picked on me and the kids, even though we don't spend any money, he's the one who over spends like mad.
I'm doomed.

Why do you stay Lonely? It sounds so joyless.

Kit65

I notice how you mention, he is angry with me because he forgot Mother's Day. Sounds familiar. Mines angry with me all the time now that I feel I'm not good enough. I'm constantly trying to keep the peace, or he'll say something hurtful to the boys. You should be pleased you have daughters, hopefully they will understand you. I have no sisters nobody to talk to, I'm just Cinderella, a housemaid, no time for me to pamper. No time to look good. No time to eat. No time to go out with friends. It's all about serving the men. I like a clean house so I work a lot on that, but instead of being praised I'm critisced. It's all he enjoys doing, like his mother, they don't like to see anybody with a smile on their face.

I don't really care for Mother's Day because I'm used to not living a happy life anymore anyway, Christmas went by with no decorations, there's no point even trying anymore. I did a good job when they were younger. I was calm when they are babies, i never let them cry, they didn't even really have any tantrums! A lot of people told me they were amazed. But then thy grew up and their dad got fed up and started picking. He's the only one who has a tantrum. It's so Embarassing to go out with him. If he wants to leave us and go to his mother it'll be very good for me. She can put up with him, so she can feel inferior!

My life will never get better, I do my best to prepare my kids food, clothes, school stuff etc and hope one day they wil remember me when I'm gone, how much I loved them.

I once spent Mothers' day literally shovelling shit out of our backyard (flooded to a foot) due to a blocked foul sewer, an absent partner for the weend and a small child who resented me having all the fun and wailed through a window as I shovelled.
The plumber finally decided that I'd done enough for him to actually clear the drain.
Mothers' day with small children is often less than ideal. It gets better when they are old enough to get into the idea and do something independently,

Wellllll I'm in the process of divorcing and my STBXH lives in the same house. So it was pretty much ignored this morning (as usual). I've never had a normal Mother's Day in 14 years. It's always been shit. So I cried for two hours this morning and then decided to teach my 10 & 14 year old about what I consider to be a normal Mother's Day.

I took them to Tescos and showed them what sort of flowers I like and then gave them £10 to choose me something while I sat outside and then we went out for coffee and cake. Next year we will go out for lunch, just me and them.