When to worry?

[havalina]

Hi all, my dear boy is 16 months old, and currently not walking or talking. He will take about 3 steps then collapses on to his bum, he says mama and thats about it really. He claps, he waves bye bye, puts his hands up when I say how big is he today etc. But he doesn't seem to understand a lot.

I was a laid back second time Mother (DD was bang on for all her milestones and was an advanced talker, pointing to parts of her body and making correct animal noises etc at 12 months). He will do things in his own time, he's just laid back I thought (and he is). Until I accidentally read that not pointing before 18 monthe is a huge red flag for development problems.

Now I am a ball of stress, I can't even enjoy him anymore I'm always trying to get him to interact in a certain way.

I know I shouldn't worry, as it won't do any good anyway, if he has problems I can't change it and I love him to bits no matter what.

I was going to give him until about 19 months and then maybe see a Gp? Is this the right course of action? Aaagh bloody internet I would rather have been blissfully ignorant.

thanks tmmj, I'll steer clear of my HV she's crap, bit scare that the Gp will think I'm a bit of an idiot, he already looks at me funny, but I'll brave his scorn lol.

He sounds a sweetie. If he's causing you worry then by all means go and see the gp.

When you mentioned the pointing, do you mean he isn't pointing of his own accord OR do you mean if you pick him up in your arms and point at something he doesn't pay any attention/mimic the pointing?

The reason why I ask, is that I read soemthing similar about milestones and realised dd wasn't doing some of the things like pointing of her own accord and building towers but that was because we didn't do it with her - we were too busy rowing boats and banging drums. As soon as we did it became part of what she did too. She was also a lateish walker (about 15-16m) and still doesn't say a lot compared with her older brother at the same age.

You sound really worried, so I'd go to the GP. Horrible for you and DS if you're stressed and always trying to get him to perform.
Hopefully the worry is for nothing as the internet is not a balanced or considered source (I had an anomaly on my 20 week scan - internet said disastrous - all turned out fine). But better to find out

{{{{{}}}}} to you and DS.

He does follow a point, but doesn't spontaneously point at something he wants.

It's odd as my instinct says he is fine, it's just this damn pointing thing that has thrown me. think I will give him a little bit more time then see the Gp. Thanks for your advice.

I sympathise on the anomaly at 20 weeks scan, I had polyhdramnios in my second pregnancy, I googledit and it came up with all sorts eg 80% chance of abnormality etc. Was all fine in the end I just carried more fluid than normal.

The internet is a wonderful and terrible thing lol