Hi,
please can someone give me some advice/reassurance etc as I feel like I am drowning at the moment.
I have a DS who will be 12 Weeks on Wednesday. To say it’s not been an easy ride would be an understatement. Full disclosure I have PND and anxiety around milestones.
my DS was born full term and for the first 2 weeks of his life slept pretty much constantly and was pretty chill. The only thing was that he wouldn’t go down in his Moses basket (would pull his legs up immediately and wake himself up). So far so normal.
from around 2.5 weeks he started crying pretty much constantly unless fed or asleep. Obviously when smaller he was still sleeping a lot so was manageable with a sling. We thought it was probably silent reflux as it was with my daughter but questioned this when he started sleeping on his back swaddled for long periods of time at night.
the crying has remained right up to today and he seems to hate everything - car seat/pram/sling. The only thing he does seem to tolerate is being walked around facing outwards.
he was on the later side for smiling, but does have a social smile. This is only really when he is lying on his back (again question reflux??) and you can get his attention. He also will coo when you have his attention but this is very hard to get. He will not turn to the sound of my voice, does not look when feeding, will not turn to me when sat on my lap. This is concerning for me as everyone says faces should be his most interested thing st the no. Not interested in toys at all yet really and very hit or miss if he tracks them. We know he can see though.
he tires very quickly and needs to be asleep within an hour still or gets very overtired. Naps are still on me and now v short - around half an hour. He often wakes himself in distress after audible swallowing is heard.
I have seen a private paed who says he has no concerns and that he interacted well with him and was healthy. Prescribed him omeprazole but am reluctant to give this unless I’m sure he has reflux. Paed also thought I might not be getting much attention from him as he is trying to manage his painful reflux symptoms and can’t do both.
I am worried about autism, delayed development (not really going down for tummy time, not bashing at toys, not grabbing/grasping) but everyone around me just tells me it’s my PND and he’s fine.
does anyone think any of this is concerning or am I just a paranoid mess? Help please!