Hi,
My 4.5 year son had some kind of outburst for the first time, that I couldn't understand what is going on and how to stop it.
He has been very hard work for past 7 weeks and I don't know how to manage his behaviour anymore.
We were visiting a family member, had lunch and chat for an hour and we got ready to set off, as he was starting to act out by touching things that aren't allowed(always do a talk before entering other people's houses), but he does things in spite of me and watching me while doing whatever he is intending to do. As we were leaving and getting in the car, he got progressively worse and out of control with his behaviour:
Refusing to get in the car seat, throwing everything from his shoes to Items at the back towards me, pushing all the buttons on the dash once I got the car started and trying to get him in the seat, jumping in and out of the car, kicking me and I felt so powerless, it seems like a mucking about, but he was in distress and laughing at the same time, refusing to talk and not making eye contact. It took over 40 minutes to get him to stop trashing and shouting intermittently. I got myself in such state and panic attack as he has had about 50 episodes of meltdowns (not like this) , just screaming and grunting after refusing to listen and talk.
I suspect he has something that affects his ability to control his emotions and is hyperactive and impulsive yet can be very calm and collected at preschool or doctors for example.
He has a habit to randomly shoot and make weird sounds with his mouth too.
I'm just so lost and tired of this. I want to be present and be a good mother, but these outbursts are pushing me away and have being brought to tears too many times. It seems that it isn't present when he has these moments. 