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Coping alone with 2 kids when one won't be put down...

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wrensmama · 18/08/2023 18:32

Mumsnetters, I need tips. I have a DS (4.5) starting school in a couple of weeks. I also have DD (4 months) who (if you have read a previous post) does not sleep, and if she does, it is only when attached to me.

My issue is that DH has to travel abroad for work week after DS starts school. I can cope with both kids in the day, especially with DS at school BUT i have no idea:

  1. How to handle bed time with two. Currently we split the kids - DD is EBF so I feed her til she is asleep in my arms, where she stays until I go to bed and DH takes over. I get a few hours sleep before she comes up and the rest of the night is basically me feeding her every hour while every inch of her skin has to touch me.
  1. How do I do all the other jobs? How do
I clean up the kitchen, feed the pets, do the laundry, tidy up the toys, shower etc, usually this is done by DH while I'm feeding baby In the eve. Or do I just sack all that off and live in squalor until he returns? Go to bed when DS does and hope I can get some semblance of sleep?

FWIW I don't have family support, and baby refuses all cots/cribs/Moses baskets because she's a diva needy baby. All naps are on me so there isn't chance to 'sleep when the baby sleeps'

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JodiM89 · 18/08/2023 18:57

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Being a mum and all that comes with it is challenging at times. Your daughter is only very little and this should pass. Have you tried using a baby sling? I used to use one with my youngest son as he was similar to your little girl. It just meant i was able to get some jobs done with out the moaning for cuddles.

wrensmama · 18/08/2023 19:04

@JodiM89 thanks for the reply! I already sling her for all her naps (I think that's why my back is hurting so much!), I don't mind because I know she is tiny, I don't necessarily expect to change her behaviour just... not sure how people cope with 2 on your own 24/7 when one is so super clingy. I'm worried about being a rubbish parent to my DS at a time when he is probably going to really need me (starting school) because I am so exhausted/don't have enough hands to do everything. Or maybe I'm overthinking it 🥴

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