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2yr old clingy and mood swings

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lilbooboo1 · 13/08/2023 21:06

Hi, so my little one is 2yrs and 3 months. She is so loving and is very clingy towards me still. She has been from a very young age. Recently her mood swings are another level, I believe it's just her being 2 and becoming more frustrated with things around her. It's really hard to deal with but what's making it worse is my DH can't seem to handle her mood swings. He seems completely oblivious that other kids her age act this way. Constantly saying he thinks there's something wrong with her. It's started to get me down because he won't listen to me explaining her behaviour. He just can't seem to deal with tantrums and that her brain doesn't reason like an adults. She definitely has her quirks and she's not the most outgoing in front of people and other kids. Different story at home or with close family haha 😂

It is very draining that she relies heavily on us still and won't involve her self in activities but I don't think there is anything wrong with her. She just needs more time to come round. I'm finding it hard as I feel like I'm trying to keep her calm so it doesn't set him off saying he can't cope. I need help when it's intense, not to met by even more anger 😣 I can't help get annoyed as well as I am with her 24/7 so I feel like I have a right to get upset/angry dealing with constant tantrums but he sees her after work for 2-3 hours before bed and at a weekend never by himself as I'm there as well.

I just find myself researching to see if her behaviour is normal or if I'm doing anything wrong because it feels like I am 😣

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scrabbledabbl · 13/08/2023 22:16

@lilbooboo1 my daughter was exactly like this at 2 and is still hard work at 6. It's very easy just to jump to the conclusion that there is something wrong with them when they don't conform but it's just their personalities, then finding their feet, they may be wired up a bit differently and be more high needs / emotional but it doesn't mean there is something WRONG. I'm sorry your partner doesn't understand, mine was and still is the same sadly. Perhaps encourage him to read some parenting books or watch supernanny videos - that will teach him!

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lilbooboo1 · 14/08/2023 07:33

scrabbledabbl · 13/08/2023 22:16

@lilbooboo1 my daughter was exactly like this at 2 and is still hard work at 6. It's very easy just to jump to the conclusion that there is something wrong with them when they don't conform but it's just their personalities, then finding their feet, they may be wired up a bit differently and be more high needs / emotional but it doesn't mean there is something WRONG. I'm sorry your partner doesn't understand, mine was and still is the same sadly. Perhaps encourage him to read some parenting books or watch supernanny videos - that will teach him!

I've tried to say to research on toddler behaviour so he can see that it's normal or slightly high needs emotionally like you said. He just says google is a load of rubbish and won't listen. We discussed it last night and he just seemed angry and annoyed I wasn't agreeing with him. He even said "you have an answer to everything". It's just infuriating that he has all these opinions on how kids should be but not bothered to research any of it. She's super clever, speaks well and is a lovely child. She just gets up at 5am every morning so she tends to get tired quickly which results in mood swings and tantrums. Also she can be shy and withdrawn in settings she's not use to and he gets so frustrated with that. It just seems any other kids around us similar age to her are more out going so he feels she should be. It's just so hard to deal with, it's getting me down and Im hardly sleeping 😣 I suffer with anxiety normally so it's not helping. Im trying to deal with being a toddler mum but I feel like I'm having to take on his issues as well.

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scrabbledabbl · 14/08/2023 11:53

Sorry you feel that way it sounds exactly like my daughter's father. Don't let him get you down honestly you can't control other people that's one thing I've learnt in life so just concentrate on you, being the best mother you can be to her and supporting her through her emotions/ challenges. She is who she is it's her personality she doesn't have to be like other children. Accept her for who she is and don't resist it. He needs to read Eckhart Tole or Daniel Speilberg. Get him an early Xmas present!

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lilbooboo1 · 14/08/2023 12:17

scrabbledabbl · 14/08/2023 11:53

Sorry you feel that way it sounds exactly like my daughter's father. Don't let him get you down honestly you can't control other people that's one thing I've learnt in life so just concentrate on you, being the best mother you can be to her and supporting her through her emotions/ challenges. She is who she is it's her personality she doesn't have to be like other children. Accept her for who she is and don't resist it. He needs to read Eckhart Tole or Daniel Speilberg. Get him an early Xmas present!

Thank you! Yeh I'm just going to get on with things and don't let his opinion get to me so much. Can't keep everyone happy I suppose haha 😂 yeh I might get him it! It will be the challenge to get him to read it 🙄😂 x

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scrabbledabbl · 15/08/2023 12:50

@lilbooboo1 I'm here to chat if you need me 😊

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