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Normal for a 3 year old

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Raindancer411 · 01/08/2023 17:36

Hi all

I have a girl who has just turned 3 and is due to start nursery in September. I am a little worried about her behaviour and strops as her older brother was never like it.

Is it normal for them to get easily frustrated when her brother or I go to try and play with her, and if she decides it not what she wants you to do (put a block somewhere on a Duplo build), she gets annoyed and destroys it. I have tried to ask her what's up and talk to me but then she just starts trying to hurt you (biting and kicking or stamping in a threatening way as she knows we do not use cruel hands or teeth).

Other times she just stands there and screams or growls and we sometimes can get her to hug out her frustration.

I am worried she will not play nicely with others if the don't want to do what she wants and end up trying to hurt someone and have no friends, and be labelled naughty before she even has started her school time.

Please assure me it's just a normal phase...

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 02/08/2023 07:35

How is she with other DC now? Do you go to any groups where she's with other DC regularly?

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Raindancer411 · 02/08/2023 07:56

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto Sadly no as there isn't much around here and my car is out of action. We did a cooking class not long ago and she seemed on with the others there. I was even shocked as she gave up a toy easily there and I forgot about that. Maybe it's just she is confident with us.

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Raindancer411 · 02/08/2023 07:57

Ok not on... She also was chatting to another toddler when in her buggy when we were out, so maybe I am just panicking

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 02/08/2023 07:58

It's a bit late now as a lot of Playgroup type things are off but I'd look to see what you can go to over the rest of August to get her a bit more used to other Children

MummaFayy · 09/08/2023 12:40

Hi @Raindancer411 this literally feels like I’ve wrote it about my little girl who also starts nursery in September. I think it is normal I mean mine was an angel until I had another baby and behaviour just went haywire but I’ve been told this usually happens befor they start nursery. But honestly can get increasingly frustrating.

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Raindancer411 · 10/08/2023 16:58

@MummaFayy Thanks for the reply... she was at the park the other day and was playing nicely with another older girl there.

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Createbeauty1 · 12/08/2023 12:10

I have this same problem with my son he just wants to destroy it and not take part either and i took him to playgroups 3 times a week he is very well socialised so i know thats not the issue for me personally if you do get to the bottom of it please let me know mumma needs help over here.

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