Ok am I doing this wrong? Advice gratefully received please

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Like your views please. My DD 2.7 is refusing to tidy up and alwys says mamma do it! She has now been given a reward chart and one fo the rules is she tidies up her toys. She is in the habit of emptying boxes for the sake if it...

Anyway since 8.30 this morning she is refusing point blank to tidy up a puzzle in her room. No major tidying just a puzzle.

DS and me like to go out in th garden but obviously cant. One of her friends is coming at 10am for play and lunch (mum is staying).

What would you do? She is very stubborn and has a memory of an elephant so if I give in I know it is likely to happen every time....

I find that I have to use endless imagination and excitement to make my 3 yo tidy up. Like "wow - these toys make a great noise when you put them in the box" or "can you be a toy detective and go hunting for toys in the living room" or "all aboard the toy train! All the passengers get into the train or it's leaving!" or... and now my brain hurts.

I also findthat if he's not in the mood to comply, I figure it's not important enough to create nuclear war over and I just pick up the puzzle and put it away.

Oh, the other thing mine responds to is "we're just going to go without you until you've..."

thanks sml she isnt bothered if we go out or not! She just said mummy bad! tried making it fun and normally DS does it for her but think she needs to learn she needs to tidy up her own mess

Encourage her to tidy up but if she's not doing it then do it for her. You and your ds do and let her join in if she wants. I wouldn't make a big deal of this at this age. I certainly wouldn't get worked up over putting a puzzle away.
How old is your ds?

thanks she is 2.8 and DS is 4.5.

She just says mamma tidy up not me, noooo. I know i shouldnt get worked up over it but she is just tipping boxes over for fun so I can tidy it up.

She did actually tidy it up in the end and gave lots of praise so who knows.