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11 year olds won’t listen

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Lydia50 · 31/07/2023 12:03

I feel at my wits end. I guess it’s all just normal but is it? I tell the children not to leave food in their bedroooms over abs over, the dog gets upstairs, steaks a hell pack of jam dog it’s eats the lot, their carpet that is only a few months old looks ten years old from food stains everywhere.

I ask them every morning to remember to feed their rabbits, they never remember, I nag, they argue whites turn it is.

I ask them to start making their own breakfast sometimes over the summer rhdosus, out s piece of toast in, one says she won’t briber eating u less I do it.

I don’t work, I do everything for them, I spend my life trying to make them happy and. I feel I smash my head against a wall when I ask sometimes for say a little thing, like help to unload a food shop etc. im
living with cancer, I get tired and I feel
like I have to say everything. A million times and am constantly met with an anti attitude rather than a caring helpful one.

I suppose it’s just normal parenting but any advice would be appreciated

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 31/07/2023 22:30

So sorry that you have cancer. That must be incredibly hard Flowers

Hopefooll · 25/09/2023 11:31

Hello Lydia50. I hope you are doing well re health. Parenting can be challenging but you are probably doing better than you think and so are your children!
Sometimes I feel like my kids are trashing the house on purpose and really don’t realise that I am human and I cant be running after them constantly.
Sometimes when things get overwhelming for me I sit them down and have an honest conversation with them in child friendly manner. I remind them that I am a human and not a slave and I love them but I need them to play their part. This sometimes works and other times I impose consequences (Like no screentime, reduced pocket money) or let them experience the consequences of their poor decisions. Attitude wise, I have to advice. I have an 11year who really tests my patience with talk back and attitude. Still finding a solution to that one!
Another thing that helps me is when I do things like cooking and housework in advance so jobs don’t pile up. I also have a strict routine for meals, bedtime etc and mostly stick it religiously which keeps me and things calm around the house. Its just less chaos when everyone knows the general routine.
I am also kind to myself ensuring I get enough rest, eat well and exercise when I can. This all helps me deal with the chaos of having a young family.
Hope this helps.
Sending big hugs. Xx

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