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Toddler is playing quite roughly with Baby; Baby is laughing; should i intervene????

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dragonbutter · 26/02/2008 15:30

DS1 is 3.5, DS2 is 9 months.
Game involves smothering him in a blanket and pulling it off.
DS2 is hysterics.

Don't want to be a killjoy.

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phlossie · 26/02/2008 15:35

as long as you keep an eye on them...

FAQ · 26/02/2008 15:36

sounds like the sort of games DS2 (4) plays with DS3 (9 months) so long as you're watching them leave them to it.

notnowbernard · 26/02/2008 15:36

As my MIL has said to me on many an occasion...

"Only interfere when you see blood"

meemar · 26/02/2008 15:36

I would leave them. It's so lovely that they are having fun together, and you are there and the baby is safe.

You can always give DS1 the safety talk a bit later on today.

MamaG · 26/02/2008 15:37

Ah leave em

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dragonbutter · 26/02/2008 15:37

DS1 had found arrival of DS2 really hard and the jealousy hasn't ever stopped. It's hard when he's finally found something to do together for me to keep on telling him to be careful, and not to hurt him.

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 15:38

go and put the kettle on and have a cup of tea while they're busy playing together

Pitchounette · 26/02/2008 15:38

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FAQ · 26/02/2008 15:39

don't forget though that babies, especially 9 month old ones, are actually pretty robust. He'll cry if he's not enjoying it anymore (as he will with any game you play with him) and then you intervene.

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dragonbutter · 26/02/2008 15:43

Anybody got any ideas of what are good games for toddlers and babies to play together?

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sleepycat · 26/02/2008 15:45

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BrownSuga · 26/02/2008 15:50

I'd only intervene if the balance was leaning more toward smothering, and less pulling blanket off.

flowerybeanbag · 26/02/2008 15:58

DS is 9mo and his absolute favourite game is pulling whatever he can find - playmat/muslin/bib/shirt over his face, waiting for me to go 'Where's DS?', laughing hysterically then dramatically revealing his face with a flourish. Brilliant fun.

Ledodgy · 26/02/2008 15:59

Leave them to it but make sure you never leave them alone together with a blanket!

notnowbernard · 26/02/2008 16:00

agree that baby will let you know when he's had enough merriment

peekaboo is a good game. Or get toddler to 'hide' (behind a door/corner etc) and play 'boo'.

If he's crawling, hide-and-seek is a good one

TillyScoutsmum · 26/02/2008 16:01

DD is 10 months and peek a boo games are about as exciting as it gets She also likes splashing and being splashed by her big sis in the bath

RubberDuck · 26/02/2008 16:03

Ds1 used to sit on ds2 at around the same ages Ds2 thought it was HILARIOUS.

Amazing how much more robust second child is compared to your first. I would have had kittens if a toddler had come up and sat on Ds1 when he was 9 months

NorthernLurker · 26/02/2008 16:03

My big girls (nearly 10 and 7) play 'B the detective' with B who is 10 mths. Basically they start off at one end of the landing altogether then run along it to our room and take refuge on the far side of our bed. B crawls after them at a great pace and then proceeds to hunt them down whilst they try to get past her without her seeing them. Quite a challenge - sounds like a herd of elephants from down below. What has amazed me is how much they all equally enjoy this. The big girls are not putting their fun on one side - they have devised a game that their baby sister can play with them as an equal

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dragonbutter · 26/02/2008 16:13

Baby got squashed, he yelled, big brother backed off. Nice that i didn't have to intervene.
Keep the ideas coming on what they can do together, I'm really liking your suggestions.

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S1ur · 26/02/2008 16:18

My two like playing dogs.

Ds (18m) leads dd (3.5) around by her dress ties.

They also chase, all the time. Bounce on bed. Cover each other up and then jump out. Put things in boxes, dd has a system, ds brings her random stuff. They like playing Slurboy the Monster, dd runs and hides and quakes while ds charges off roaring and trying to find her.

and more but that'll do for now.

horseymum · 26/02/2008 20:01

mine are exactly the same ds1 is quite rough with dd2 but she always just laughs. They love the blanket thing. Good games are playing on sit on toys - you have to help obviously, row the boat - can use large box, washing basket etc but needs close supervision - our carrycot was great becasue dd could actually sit up in it on her own and ds could fit in too, that is hours of fun. Basically, she gets to play with loads more fun toys than he did at that age. He is now into pushing her around in baby walker. Musical instruments are good too - put on a load cd and give them both a pile of shakers, drums etc or tins, boxes and wooden spoons and watch them both have a great time.

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