Asked before but still need tips....friends jealousy issues....

[robin3]

DS1 4.5 has a firm best friend and basically another child has moved in so DS1 now has to share said best friend.

Every night this comes up at bath time and his possessiveness is causing him real issues. Other than this he loves pre-school.
What should I say?
How can I help him to chill out about it?

He does loads of play days with other children but this makes no difference as he still keeps true to his best friend and seems to repel other childrens offers of friendship.

Letting him talk about it is good as he'll work through his feelings on this. He sounds like a little one who is a good friend and this will serve him well as gets older.

I wonder if there are any books about friendships and the normal ups and downs that you could read together? I can only think of one that ds had called 'friends' and was about 2 friends falling out over something, but perhaps you could have a look around the bookshops.
My ds has a very close friend and things did naturally sort themselves out a bit whe they both started different schools - they have found an accomodation with other children and although sometimes things can be difficult if there are more than the 2 of them with some difficult dynamics, they do seem to be managing it.... by calling each other 'more like family'.
As cupsoftea said, I'm sure he will be a wonderful loyal frind in years to come - a great quality.

Thanks for the thoughts here. I'll look in to books and yes I reckon he'll be a darn good mate in years to come.