Why has my lovely 2 yr old DD started hitting me and scrreeeammmiinnnggg, swiftly losing patience and how to talk book is going in the bin

[sherby]

Is it ignore ignore ignore, or if I ignore am I letting her get away with it?

It is only happening if she suddenly gets frustrated ie strapping into her carseat, me to DD you have to put the book down for a minute so I can get your arm through the strap, DD nnnooooooo and then slaps me hard in the face .

We do not hit or smack so she hasn't got it from there and tbh straight afterwards she says sorry mummy sorry mummy sorry mummy over and over. But she has done it 6 times today

Any advice please, is this normal 2yr old stuff? She is only a couple of mths off 3 and so far we have been very lucky with tantrums etc maybe this is the start eekk

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Hi Sherby
I ws thinking of starting a similar thread as Dd2 behaviour is the same at the moment.

Dd2 is 2.8 yrs and over the past few months has really been losing her temper when things don't go her way or she is made to do something she doesn't want to do. Her reaction is to scream as loud as possible, hiss at me or blow raspberries then at the height of her rage she bites me never hard but she really means it. After she has calmed down she does say 'sorry mummy' i'm just not sure how to handle the biting whether to ignore it or keep telling her off?

I wouldn't ignore it. There is nothing wrong with letting your DD know that you are not happy to be hit and screamed at.

I would hold her hands firm in front of her (so she can't hit) and tell her with a very stern voice (not shouting): "No! NO hitting mummy. We don't hit people. That is BAD."

Or try the whole 'that makes mummy sad' thing - sounds like she's the sort to feel repentent.

My 2 yr old ds does this too, always when being told not to do something. Will shout really loud then hit my leg/arm. I get down to his level, hold hands firmly & say 'no, do NOT hit mummy. We don't hit people.'
I also have just started using naughty step as the hitting can carry on, despite the warning. It really works. He sits, sometimes bothered sometimes not, for a minute (timed on oven timer)& I always then get him to say sorry then carry on as normal. I've done this a few time now & the hitting has reduced quite a bit.

Oh forgot about this thread

Yes I do the holding hands and saying 'no DD don't hit mummy that makes mummy sad and isn't very kind' and then she says sorry sorry sorry over and over.

And then does it again 10 mins later

Picked her up from playschool today and had to sign an incident report because she clocked a little boy in the face after he pushed her over. It is very hard to explain that she is not allowed to hit when she is being hit too.

We are trying to give her some mechanisms to cope with it ie hhouting no don't hit me and going to find an adult.