I will try and keep it short, my son 14 has some behavioral issues and isn't the easiest of children I will never say he is an angel, I work with school quite well so if he has been rude towards members of staff he can take the punishment because he was raised better but I always listen to both sides, my son's and the teachers.
It seems though that any incident where the senior leader for behavior is involved he has lied on each occasion on what has happened, the first incident being a altercation between my child and another (he has had a previous altercation with the same child for him bullying him for months and reporting it but nothing happening) and him saying my child started it, he was rude and challenging and so on and the other child had done nothing, this wasn't the case multiple students and other staff members all told the same story as my son and only this member of staff and the child said there version and it was investigated and proved he wasn't the child who caused it. The current incident is an issue with dinner time, you're allowed to go -£3 on your card Incase you don't have any money on, my son has never been allowed and I have to send screenshots to prove I have put the money on as it doesn't update straight away, they've refused him bottles of water when we had the heatwave and he wasn't minus just around 25p short for one, I have complained before and it was supposed to be sorted but I have still had to send proof and on Friday they made him wait to one side but as I was at work on a trip and unable to use my phone I didn't see any by the time I put it on everything was gone, this resulted in him being upset and walking out but as he walked out uttered a swear word and ignored staff members.. we work hard at home in controlling emotions and are very open and honest on how we feel or if we have made each other feel a certain way, I listen to him and respect what he says and if I disagree I speak to him with respect about why, compared to the child he used to be he's come a long way, the behavior leader has called me and said this isn't true he saw the whole thing and he came in there was no food so he stormed out and the dinner staff apparently even offered him an alternative but he walked out, this has resulted in CCTV being watched and showing my son being put to one side until money went on with said senior leader stood by him while he was put to one side and also seen on his phone texting me like I told him he had done at the start!! They have said they are going to make the teacher apologise tomorrow but really is that going to solve anything? This is the second time he has fabricated a story and being caught out yet all we are being offered is an apology, I'm so conflicted because he has to be with this teacher for the next 2 years and I can't be there in school and don't want conflict, my son has also said as a teacher he is genuinely a fantastic one as he has him for a subject 5 times a week! So what do I do 😩