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Worried about autism for 7 month old DD

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Ddddddddd · 17/07/2023 14:10

Hello, I’m just extremely worried about my DD … I went for private kids neurologist she said keep monitor her…I think she saw what I was saying …had HV she said your baby is fine…. WHen I said ASD she said no she don’t have it…. And that I probably have PND…. but I can’t stop worrying….my concerns :
Lack of eye contact , she had no eye contact till 2 month, later got a bit better.
Never gazed at me, or look for long time…
Not babbeling , makes same noises when plays mostly , some di, gi, eee
just recently started to smile at mirror, but not for a long time, and sometimes she turns away from it.
Prefers toys over people. when I give her toy she squeals overexcitement..and sometimes looks at me after I give it to her.
Don’t like to snugle
if she is on my lap almost impossible to get her look at me…
Laugh only if tickled or fast running to her
Don’t have baby kind of conversation forth and back
Sometimes imposible to get her attention
Mouthing all toys all the time, or banging or scraching them
Scratching surfaces, also opening and closing her hand.
If she is in the high chair she keeps checking what I’m doing while playing. Sleeps well, eats well, if I smile most of the time she will smile back. If DH holding her she will look at me a lot. But also a lot of time will turn away like shy…
what I’m looking is probably someone in similar situation and how it end up? What I can do to help her? Maybe some therapy? Or something from your own experience? Cause HV just suggested to keep interacting with her.
really looking for any advice…..😭

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 17/07/2023 15:23

I think that sometimes HVs can be a bit too quick to blame things on Mum.

If she's not babbling at all, how does she score on this progress checker?

If it says "you answered no to some important questions", I'd call their helpline and get in touch with the HV again and ask for her to be referred for a hearing test and also ask if there are any groups that you can be referred to for DC with speech delay.

I'd also ask her to do the Ages & Stages Assessment.

When do you see the Consultant again?

Ddddddddd · 17/07/2023 16:55

Yes it’s said I answered no to some important questions and should contact them… my HV is so useless… when she came to my house all she did just smiled and said that I have anxiety.
and I know I have anxiety because of how much I worry about her.
but it doesn’t change the fact that she is missing important development …
I just can’t sleep or enjoy being mom.. it’s so difficult and it looks that no one can check her… cause I keep hearing “she is too young “ “ it’s Pnd” “all babies develop different speed “
its so frustrating that I don’t know what to do … seems I can’t do anything….
they did ages and stages questioning eve I answered most of them no for communication she still said that my baby pass…. I feel helpless…. And I don’t know what to do….

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Ddddddddd · 17/07/2023 17:18

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto HV said that she will do her check when she will be 10 months old. till then she just said to engage with her…. I try to engage with her as much as I can. Bringing her to music class also will start swimming class next week. Singing and trying to talk a lot with her… She does makes sounds through the day but it’s not forward back with me. She’s squeals also says De, ge, ee… but no bababa, dadada

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Ddddddddd · 17/07/2023 17:21

Also everywhere I read comments about it.. like people who saw signs from birth…it’s like … if you see signs that early it’s severe autism.. and that scares me so much 😭

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 17/07/2023 17:50

I'd ring the Helpline and see what they suggest. It's really hard isn't it and we were put off for a long time.

See what they say first and then maybe we can help you a bit more Flowers

MommyDe · 30/01/2024 21:58

@Ddddddddd Hello,
How your DD is doing now?
Thanks

Ddddddddd · 30/01/2024 22:39

@MommyDe Hello, she is 13 month now. I can’t say I don’t think about it anymore, but I can definitely say I see improvement in her, she says Dady when she goes to him, and recently started to say mama. she feeds dolls, she answers her name, she points, claps and waves. She shares toys with me and loves to cuddle. Loves to play peekaboo, and doing gestures in her favorite songs, like clapping or doing itsy bitsy spider with hands, she looks if I ask where is “something “ if she knows what it means. She does no no no with finger .She is not super social with strangers , but if she likes person she will look and smile to them.she is happy girl.
She still furniture walking. She improved so much from 9-10 month moving forward . anyway I believe it’s too early to say anything, I will wait till she 2 or 3 to see how she is. But I know one thing google and bad stories made my life miserable… I couldn’t sleep or eat… it took me to a dark place , I have to thank my family who talked with me day and night till I got better. I stopped googling and visiting forums.Now I’m happy , she makes me happy and I can enjoy my life… so this is where I am now …

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Donmeistersleepmachine · 31/01/2024 11:31

Op she sounds perfect. Mine is 8 months now and that's why I'm on your post. Ive started to think if I'm doing everything I can, he will just be who he is meant to be, autism, genius, average, slow, whatever it may be :). From what I've read about milestones your girl is bang on if not ahead on some thongs so I genuinely don't think you don't need to worry at all. Everything you've said in the update is reassuring!xx

MommyDe · 31/01/2024 15:24

@Ddddddddd
Thank you so much for taking time to reply me.
It's great to hear that you're feeling better and that your little princess has progressed so well!! 😍

It's really hard to be in a state of permanent anxiety about children's developpement. I'm in the thick of it now. My DD is 6 months and I find myself over analysing all her behaviours. Googling things doesn't help at all 🙄🥴

Yas1362 · 04/10/2025 11:25

@Ddddddddd hi. May I ask how is your daughter now? And when did she start babbling? Thanks

Ddddddddd · 04/10/2025 12:35

Hello. So she will be 3 in few months. She is very shy and quiet girl in general . But she is doing great. She might be on the slower side on language comprehension to her peers,but she doing progress every day. She is fully potty trained day and night, loves going to nursery, loves taking care of her dog, asks questions and gives her opinion. Eats well sleeps well. I don’t have worries about her like I had an early days. My biggest mistake was reading baby books and going to Internet.. if I would have a second child, I would throw away all those books and never look for answers in Internet…it sent me into a dark place….every child is different and developing differently, she never babbled just started talking when she was ready… many things she didn’t do by the book…. But now I think she is perfect. I hope my story helps someone, cause I remember myself looking for stories with happy ending…

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Yas1362 · 04/10/2025 12:49

That’s soooo reassuring to read! I’m so happy for you and your daughter. Thanks for taking time and updating us!

BunnyRuddington · 04/10/2025 15:03

@Yas1362do tou want to start a thread of your own setting put ehat your worries are? We might be able to help you if you tell us what’s going on Smile

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