The two things that drive me absolutely bonkers with my 4yo is his excessive affection and not listening.
When I say excessive affection he goes up
To strangers and cuddles them, at preschool his friends get annoyed because he's constantly kissing and cuddling. He will motor boat my breasts, push his hand down my top, squish his hands or feet into my stomach, rub his face over his grandparents chests. It makes everyone cringe and push him away. It's horrible.
Listening it's like he has no comprehension. I ask him to go somewhere so I can deal with his older sister and he will start talking to me about a lamp. I say can you go downstairs because your sister is still sleeping and he will get a loud toy and sit on the landing. I ask him to do anything and he just ignores it. His hearing is absolutely fine he just does his own thing and starts talking about something completely different. I try and explain things to him why it's not okay to do certain things and good decisions vs bad decisions but they fall on deaf ears. I'm so angry and frustrated at him all the time. I have asked Preschool if they think he has an sen needs but they say not so I don't know where to turn. Things I have been explaining for years aren't going in. I hate that I'm just not enjoying any time with him.