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DD becoming fearful and waking more, can't figure it out- help?

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dizietsma · 23/02/2008 16:11

DD (3yr at the end of July) is usually a brave, bold girl, she's become pretty clingy and has been waking up lots with what appear to be bad dreams.

I read somewhere that around 3 years old it's common for kids to have a spate of nightmares, but last night she broke my heart.

She'd woken up at 3am and demanded a book and some milk, she really seemed very awake, and I was frankly hoping that aquiescing to her imperious demands might calm her down enough to go back to sleep (foolish, I know). I kept reminding her that after the milk was finished it's be sleep time etc. and she'd nod happily. Obvioulsy, that didn't wash.

Eventually, I finagled her back into her cot, turned out the light and closed the door. Cue lots of pleading and wailing at high dudgeon. She has never climbed out of her cot before, but this time she finally did.

Knackered emotionally and physically, we let her sleep with us in bed. DH and I cannot sleep with her in bed. We hate it, snooze fitfully and wake up very grumpy!

During the night, I woke up to the sound of DD lying next to me sniffling and crying quietly. She hadn't tried to wake us up or anything, she was just having a quiet cry. It was such a lonely thing, it broke my heart Obviously I gave her a great big cuddle and asked her what was wrong, but I don't think she's really able to express it. I'm going to see if I can find some Sesame Street DVD's on feelings etc (DD has learnt a lot from Elmo!) to maybe help her talk about her feelings more.

But, I'm still really quite worried about her, is this a normal stage? What can I do to help reassure her? I feel so helpless.

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suzi2 · 23/02/2008 16:16

DS (3 in august) is much the same at the moment. He cries at the drop of a hat. Is horribly jealous with DD (1) and wakes a fair bit during the night. He usually just wants his cloth (comforter) and teddy and dummy (i know... must get rid of it!) back. The last week he's been ill and wanted us a lot. Is your DD coming down with something perhaps?

dizietsma · 23/02/2008 16:39

DD still has a dummy too!

I don't think she's ill, 'cos this has been going on for about 3 weeks now with no obvious symptoms that I can see. She keeps talking about "not feeling very well", but ever since she saw the Charlie and Lola about feeling sick she's been saying she's not well every time she feels a bit "off" physically or emotionally. She's an only, so there's no jealousy issues.

She has recently started a playgroup where I leave her for 2.5 hours 2x a week, and I initially put it down to this, but she's settled in really well compared to a lot of kids, I left her on the first day and she didn't cry once! Because of this change in temperement we were worried about there being a problem with playgroup so we asked her "Is playgroup fun or sad?" and she said "It's happy".

Meh. I'm hoping that I'm just being a fussy mummy and this is a normal phase.

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needmorecoffee · 23/02/2008 16:40

I think its pretty normal at this age.

needmorecoffee · 23/02/2008 16:41

meant to add, this is the age they really cotton on to the whole 'there's a big world out there' type thing and they get a bit clungy.

dizietsma · 23/02/2008 17:17

Thanks for the reassurance guys.

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