Can anyone help? Why is my 15m dd being sooooo clingy?????

[yousaidit]

...it's driving me nuts! I t's only started about one month ago, incidentaly the same time she started crawling (she was in no hurry to move!), no recent change in circumstances, i've worked two days a week since oct last year and grandparents have always had one day each with her for childcare. But dear god, i only have to have my back to her, or shift away from her, never mind leave the room or be out of sight, and she goes nuts!! Absolutely sobbing and crying pleading wailing, drops any toys and is usually trying to get near to me (eg, if i'm on the loo rest assured she's clinging onto my leg!) and if she can't, eg i've put babygate on or nipped downstairs to get phone or something, she's sat stock still whilst sobbing hysterically. When i get back to her, then she's fab. Incidentally, if anyone else is with her and i then leave the room, she doesn't seem to mind, she seem s to need thecompany, but if it's just me and i disapear or just move away from her, then she goes nuts! Help! Am trying to see humourous side f this as just found out am about 1 month preggers so all thingsare being met with a pleasant happiness sort of approach!

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don't worry it will pass, mine were all like this at various stages. I relish it now with my 3rd, as dd1 age 5 now pushes me away when i want to cuddle her after school !

that's what i keep thinking, Chankins, i'll rue the day i was getting narked with her cryig when she'll soon be ignoring me and being embarrased by mum!

yousaidit, my 14 mo doing exact same thing. Perhaps they're picking up we're pg? but seriously, I think it's late onset of separation anxiety, just as she's getting more independent with crawling she needs the reassurance that you're there. AFAIK, usually ends by 18 months or so. The hanging onto my trousers is driving me mad whilst I'm trying to brush my teeth etc though.

thats it, it is hard at the time, but they grow up so so fast, dd1 in particlur was a mummys girl from the start, I constantly picked her up, carried her ev erywhere cos she hated the buggy, let her in the loo and the bath with me cos she just wanted to be with me. When I was pg with dd2 it really worried me that dd1 was so clingy, as I was worried she' be extra jealous.
But like I say, she pushes me away now, and I miss her so much !
I try to hug and kiss my 9 mo old ds constantly bt he is rather independent also and wriggles away. o poor me i miss my babies.

Well I'm hoping it's normal because my DD is also 15 months and doing exactly the same thing! Started about a month ago and sometimes she'll be hanging onto my leg sobbing her heart out or throwing herself onto the floor because I've put her down for two seconds to make a cup of tea.

It's worse when her Dad comes home - he picks her up for a cuddle then pops her down - and the wailing is incredible. Sometimes she'll do it if a friend or relative pops rounds and then they leave - she'll be crying her eyes out and this can sometimes be people she hardly knows!!

Like you I'm also preggers.....and I swing from being able to see the funny side to begging her to stop

Yes, i'm dreading dd doing this when i start wearing the proper maternity pants or i can see dd hanging on to them, then flying to the floor as pants give out and someone getting a unwanted view f my milkbottle white rugby player size hairy legs . it's lovely to be wanted but when the cleaning take all day instead of a couple f hours it drives you nuts1 Incidentally, Accesorizequeen, dh said same tyhing, poss dd has picked up on preggers andnot happy!!

My DD is clingy on and off usually coinciding with either teeth, illness or developmental progress. It is such hard work but I live in hope that soon we start to have more confidence and less clingyness. Breath deeply and repeat the 'it's just a phase mantra'

I think they're like cats yousaidit . Mine always knows, she's nice to me for a change. DS1 had it for 9 months quite badly in that I couldn't leave him anywhere, even with dp, without massive screaming so I'm fairly grateful for ds2's low-key 'don't move across the room' approach My ds can be placated by his blankie (one of those taggie blankets) a little, does your dd have a transitional object yet? I think that's what they're called.

Gingerninja, i'm doing just that. It's just that after a while i hyperventilate with all the deep breaths!!!! it would help that when you look at them they look absolutely devastated and if you raise you voice or sound snappy ten seconds later you feel terrible!!!!

I know, I lost it with him this morning with the trouser clinging, I nearly fell over. Felt awful aftwereds, his little face.

accessorizequeen, dd has got two or three teddies that she has with her in the cot or hangs on to during the day, but she isn't remotely interested in them once i move: once she got stuck when she followed me out of the bedroom and knocked the door shut when she was crawling into it and was so upset that when i came back (i'd gone to get her milk, justcows milk so only gone literally two or three mins f that) she was sprwled on floor fast asleep she had cried so much she had worn herself out!!

poor little mite. They love us that much! She might well move onto one of those teddies in a bit though, this is primetime for TO. DS2 had 3 thingies and he's only just become attached to the taggie although I have been encouraging it for months (it made things easier with ds1).

because you're the centre of her world - to her Mummy is everything congratulations on pg

Ta scottishmummy, that is a very nice way of puting it i just wish she'd stop aiming for my leg and grabbing my bum by accident while i'm having a wee!!!!!