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My 4 year old son is going to give me a heart attack

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Nia1996 · 24/06/2023 19:14

I have two kids, 4 and 5. My 5 year old is somewhat well mannered, on the other hand my son is driving me insane. I've been struggling with his behaviour for 2 years. He's very much loved, but his behaviour is concerning. He sometimes opens the front door and runs off down the road as I chase him he's laughing while I'm close enough going to have an asthma attack. When we're out he finds every opportunity to do a runner, I wouldn't even be surprised if he jumps on a train and goes to Leeds while laughing, not a care in the world! He jumps off the bunk bed, climbs to the top of the fridge. Always being impulsive and extremely stubborn, he doesn't listen to me no matter how softly or loud I talk to him. He's always pouring his bottle, milk what ever liquid he could find. Takes at least 2/3 hours to fall asleep, never stops talking. Toys don't entertain him longer than 5 mins before he throws them out the window. He goes to nursery 5 days a week, 3 hours a day. His teachers say he's lovely and very talkative. Im going insane, I think he's only like this with me. He's also quite controlling, for example if I'm cuddling him he'll grab my arm and say stroke my head here slowly not fast. Another thing is, if i'm doing something around the house like washing the dishes, putting food in the oven he screams "I'll do it, let me do it" I don't let him because what 4 year old is using the oven. He throws a tantrum for ages when he doesn't get his way. It's shocking, I don't know what it is. What's your input, could it be ADHD or anyone going through something similar. When ever I try to explain it, It sound nuts.

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JumbledE · 25/06/2023 07:58

This does sound exhausting. My DS is also 4 and has some of these behaviours but not quite as extreme.

I found a book called calmer easier happy boys/parenting very helpful for some ideas on how to deal with behaviours calmly and help my DS to learn how to manage his impulses better.

But if I was in your position I think I would also be contacting the GP or HV. Does he attend a nursery/school? Have they flagged anything up? For ADHD it has to be in more than one setting for them to move forward with an assessment.

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 25/06/2023 11:43

The lack of a sense of danger is concerning and to me that might suggest that he needs an assessment for ASD.

Have you had a full meeting with Nursery and explained your worries?

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