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6 year old DD always seems left out with friends

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rbmilliner · 19/06/2023 10:17

DD 6 is almost at the end of year 1.

She is a kind, thoughtful little girl on the whole.

She's generally liked but has no friends specifically. It's not uncommon for her to say she hasn't played with anyone today at school. She's not excluded but I get the feeling she's not included either.

For example walking to school today she meet up with a couple of little girls and they all run off down a 'secret passage'. At the end of the secret passage she was trailing behind with a scowl. I asked her what the matter was and she said that the other two had walked off and were talking without her. I said well go and join in and she said her leg hurt (she often uses things that hurts for not joining in when shes slowest, which if I'm honest is quiet often as she's just not the fastest). So we walked on and caught up and I tried to include her in the conversation - (I don't usually helicopter but just wanted to see what happened) and she just hung saying nothing. One of the other girls did try to include but the conversation naturally moved on and they walked off without her.

These situations seem to happen a lot and she's often at parties wondering on her own and groups form for example over the park she always starts playing but often ends up on her own.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can help her navigate and develop social skills - she's an only and I neither I or my husband are overly extrovert and find social situations difficult and I don't want to her to feel as uncomfortable as I do sometimes so I'm probably not best placed to help her.

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Michelle50 · 20/06/2023 10:58

Hi, I'm a year 1 teacher. Have you spoken to her teachers? Maybe they could help to pair her up / sit her next to people who she might get along with. Does she have an older 'buddy' at school? If not, maybe something to ask about. The little ones benefit massively from having an older friend and role model in the school to model social skills and (most of) the older ones love it too. Plus it's just an extra person to look out for them and keep them company if they're ever alone. Outside school, could she join a club where she'd have opportunities to meet people and make friends? She's still so young, hope these wee issues get better soon xx

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