I’m intrigued by this as it’s definitely not coming from me. I am incredibly supportive and positive and I often hear my ten year being supportive as well, using the same words, so I know I’m doing this bit right.
I’m wondering if it’s personality? He called me fat quite a few times yesterday. He didn’t just say the word but really went into depth about how Im overweight and that I know i am. I’m a little overweight but not by much and make an effort to dress nicely. By comparison to my peer group I’m probably on the slimmer side so I don’t think I stick out. He also likes to criticise his siblings weight and other aspects such as what they wear or things they do. He’s hard on himself too. Will often call himself ‘dumb’ or ‘stupid’ if he’s angry at not being able to do something. I think he’s even called himself fat when he’s extremely slim.
i know his friends at school call people fat so I suspect that might be coming from there. The super high standards he sets for himself I’m unsure what to do to help. I don’t get involved with any school work as he has never let me help. Even when he was in Reception. He’d get extremely angry if I interfered. He seems pretty academic. Would you just let it play out and see what happens as he ages or would you try and guide him in some way?
He was a high needs baby and is very prone to rages that will include hitting and throwing things. The rages used to last hours but have definitely improved. School wise he is good as gold so they aren’t in the least bit open to discussing these traits with me.
He has some friends and seems pretty popular. Plays sports and I keep him busy with extra curricular things. I’m just not sure if I should be doing anything else or if this kind of thing just sorts itself.