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chrlng · 14/06/2023 21:18

Hello. My daughter is 17 months. Since she started rolling over (4-5 months) she has never stopped moving. She tried so hard to move and roll over, she dislocated her elbow when she was a baby. I left her for a second to open the door to receive a parcel and found her with dislocated elbow. She walked when she was 10 months. She's so active, it's dreadful. I work full time and my partner also does. No childcare at all. Just swapping. When I go home he goes to work. I work 6am-2pm and he works 2pm-10pm. That means I work 8 hours and I look after her for 8 hours. She's always been fighting sleep. It takes around 2 hours to fall asleep with meltdowns and tears. We're co-sleeping since she was 6 months old. We tried every way possible let her fall asleep in her cot but she'd cry until her lips turned blue and she chocked and vomited from crying so we gave up. We never ever have time to just sit down a have a coffee. She'll never sit in her pram or high chair. We always have to rush to eat and go home. We can't even go food shopping. She's constantly running and destroying things, falling on the floor and cry if we try to pick her up or stop her. It's completely impossible for me to imagine that anyone can look after her if we send her to nursery. Especially when they have other children to look after as well. I really feel so tired and hopeless. We go out on weekends and I see hundreds of babies/toddlers in their pram sitting and chilling/playing with a toy and I'm wondering what we've done wrong.
Any other mum with a toddler like this to give me some courage? xx

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 15/06/2023 08:09

It could just be personality but the being very active and taking ages to get to sleep did ring a bell with me. My DS was very much like this and has recently been diagnosed with ADHD.

We ended up sending him to Nursery just to have a break, the activity coupled with the lack of sleep is hard isn't it?

Has your HV done an Ages & Stages recently? If not, I'd make an appointment with her and fill this in and ask her to score it.

chrlng · 15/06/2023 12:37

How old is your son and how old was he when he was diagnosed with ADHD? My DD is not talking yet (kit even mama, dada) but we're bilingual and maybe this is one of the reasons. Maybe not. She is not interested in mimicking words. Also she often whining very often. It's really so tiring.

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 18/06/2023 08:58

He's a teen now and only got diagnosed recently. I suspect me and DH both have ADHD, it's hereditary, which is why we probably thought a lot of his behaviour normal.

ritcha · 18/06/2023 13:16

chrlng · 15/06/2023 12:37

How old is your son and how old was he when he was diagnosed with ADHD? My DD is not talking yet (kit even mama, dada) but we're bilingual and maybe this is one of the reasons. Maybe not. She is not interested in mimicking words. Also she often whining very often. It's really so tiring.

My son is also 17 months. Also he is a calm baby. But no words yet. No pointing also.
have you got opinion of a doctor?

chrlng · 23/06/2023 19:15

ritcha · 18/06/2023 13:16

My son is also 17 months. Also he is a calm baby. But no words yet. No pointing also.
have you got opinion of a doctor?

No I haven't. You?
She's always been hitting all milestones early. It's only the talking bit. Maybe because we're talking to her in 3 different languages? Both me and my DH are not English but we use English to communicate with each other.
The main issue is the sleep. Bedtime is so dreadful. She detests sleep so much!

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