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Cheeky and disobedient nearly 6 year old

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bunjies · 10/12/2004 20:39

My ds is 6 in Jan and over the last few weeks has become really difficult to handle. He started year 1 in September and has been attending a breakfast club every morning and an after school club once a week. His behaviour has become, in my opinion, truly awful in that he doesn't do what he's told at home or at school. So much so that his teacher had a word with me this week about it. He has lost more golden time than any other child in his class. He has also started using bad language and told one of his class mates to "f@@k off". I mean this is a 5 year old we're talking about! When questioned about it he said she pinched him but of course instead of telling the teacher he retaliated. To be honest I have been most concerned about the swearing. He has also become completely obsessed with football and attempts to play it every minute of the day. This usually leads to him not doing what we are asking him to do and we end up having to raise our voices to get him to stop. Has anyone else experienced their child transform like this - is it a phase or should I be worried? Should we stop him going to after school club? Breakfast club will be finishing at Christmas as I will be going on maternity leave and won't need it anymore but we thought we'd keep the after school club going once a week as he enjoys it. Is it so awful that he is picking up this kind of behaviour? Is this what boys do? Could it be related to me being pregnant? We have another child (dd, 2) whom he adores and gets on really well with but could he be reacting to this as a threat? Aaagh so many questions!

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Frizbethereindeer · 10/12/2004 20:57

Only have experience of ss, so not very good on advice for this one, but I would say its definatley a boundary testing time, he's now at school full time and learning he has to do as he's told and conform with the other kids and do all the horrible things like learn to read, maths etc, when all he still wants to do is have fun.

Have you tried asking him if he's having any problems at school? he's not feeling bullied or anything? Does school have a happy book? often a good source of bribary, the old 'lets see if you can get in there this week and you can have a treat?' (if you can't afford any treats, make something up that's really good for the weekend, and then when he messes up in the 1st hour of day one, he just won't get it! although this only works if he works to current rule!)

I don't think dd2 should be the problem but where is dd2 when he's at school? nursery? does she spend any more time with you than he does just as a thought?

I'm sure you'll get lots of help on this one, from people more experienced than me, but hope my whittering can be of help?

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