Out of Control 3 yr old

[tammylove]

Im at my wits end with DS behaviour.
He will be 3 in 5 weeks time. He is so very demanding of me, shouts when things arent done when he says so, screams, whinges and smacks when really on form.

It is starting to get me down now. He doesnt stop, its constant mis behaving morning till night.

I want to just walk out and not come back its getting so bad. If i tell him once NO i tell him a thousand times and he just doesnt listen to me.

DD was never this demanding and could be quietened quite easily, but he is so different.

Help before i lose my mind.

Have you tried slashing TV ( assuming he watches some ) my 3 year old becomes really aggressive if he loosen the reins and let him watch too much.

I've just been on the phone with my sister complaining about the same thing with her 3.5 year old ds. He reduced her to tears last week and keeps asking if they can play'that game again. You know Mummy the one where I make you cry.'!!!
Despite being the most pc person in the world, she has come to the conclusion that boys and girls are so so different!!

Have you tried any of the following?

-Ignoring him completely, with no words or eye contact (hard but v effective)
-Closing the door on him saying that you don't like naughty boys and that he can come back when he behaves.
-Removing toys quietly but quickly if he throws them around/misuses them.(Even putting them in the bin!!)

Those are my three chief tactics and they work pretty well, but when all is said and done, toddlers can be little buggers can't they?!
It won't last forever (or so I tell myself!)
Good luck and see if you can get a bit of time to yourself-marvelous for keeping everything in perspective!

Thank You i will give it a try before i lose my hair.

Has he become worse recently. My three have been really terrible over the last couple of weeks, but they are so hyped up by school plays, parties and christmas.
I have resorted, even though they are 8 to giving the twins behaviour charts, and withdrawing treats until they get more good stars than bad, and slowly and surely things are improving. I am trying to ignore some of the behaviour too.
Try not to let it get you down, I always feel reassured on MN that plenty of other people are in the same boat.

sorry to hi-jack your thread but so glad you changed your name - everytime I see your name I think of the other one and !

hope you sort out your ds problems!

Sending you big hugs{{{{{}}}}}.
Have you read "Toddler Taming" by Dr green. My mum got it for me when dd was a toddler as she was such a handful and ds was even harder. Its written in a humerous way and has some good tips - it stopped me from going mad. I felt like he had met me and dd and was writing about us