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9 month old development

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Pregnantanduncomfortable · 21/05/2023 12:39

Hi all, I’m wondering if any of you might have had the same experience as me or just some general advice to share as I’m sick with worry about my DD.

She’s 9 months old and I’m very worried about her development. She doesn’t really respond to her name and will never respond to you if we have Ms Rachel on the tv. Doesn’t maintain eye contact when she’s having her milk, she’ll just look off in the opposite direction. Doesn’t like to be held or cuddled, just wants to be down all the time and will push against me when I’m holding her (never been cuddly as a small baby either so I don’t think it’s anything to do with wanting to be independent). She does play with toys but yesterday I shook a rattle near her ear to see if she would turn towards the sound and there was nothing as though it wasn’t even registering, she also doesn’t do ‘back and forth’ play either so won’t really imitate what I’m doing or seem to enjoy peekaboo. She won’t look in the direction I’m looking or look towards where I’m pointing either. She’s not that bothered if I’m in the room or not and won’t cry if she can’t see me. She squeezes her eyes shut a lot too

On the other hand, she sits unaided, can stand with support (but on tiptoes) and is starting to shuffle backwards on her stomach, lifts her arms up to be picked up and can also track items if I move them in front of her. She says ‘mama’ ‘baba’ makes a ‘pfff’ sound as though she’s blowing air out of her mouth

I’ve spoken to the HV when she was around 8 months and they told me that she’s too young to be diagnosed with anything right now but I’m naturally an anxious person and am driving myself crazy. Has anyone had a similar experience and what was the outcome? I just want to know if she’s leaning towards being autistic or not, the not knowing is what makes it worse for me.

thank you in advance

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Pregnantanduncomfortable · 24/05/2023 21:27

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 25/05/2023 18:51

Your HV is right, she is too young to be diagnosed but I think the very least she could do is to refer your DD for a hearing test to rule out Glue Ear.

Has she done an Ages & Stages assessment with your DD and has she said when she wants to see her again?

Chzm · 02/06/2024 13:44

Pregnantanduncomfortable · 21/05/2023 12:39

Hi all, I’m wondering if any of you might have had the same experience as me or just some general advice to share as I’m sick with worry about my DD.

She’s 9 months old and I’m very worried about her development. She doesn’t really respond to her name and will never respond to you if we have Ms Rachel on the tv. Doesn’t maintain eye contact when she’s having her milk, she’ll just look off in the opposite direction. Doesn’t like to be held or cuddled, just wants to be down all the time and will push against me when I’m holding her (never been cuddly as a small baby either so I don’t think it’s anything to do with wanting to be independent). She does play with toys but yesterday I shook a rattle near her ear to see if she would turn towards the sound and there was nothing as though it wasn’t even registering, she also doesn’t do ‘back and forth’ play either so won’t really imitate what I’m doing or seem to enjoy peekaboo. She won’t look in the direction I’m looking or look towards where I’m pointing either. She’s not that bothered if I’m in the room or not and won’t cry if she can’t see me. She squeezes her eyes shut a lot too

On the other hand, she sits unaided, can stand with support (but on tiptoes) and is starting to shuffle backwards on her stomach, lifts her arms up to be picked up and can also track items if I move them in front of her. She says ‘mama’ ‘baba’ makes a ‘pfff’ sound as though she’s blowing air out of her mouth

I’ve spoken to the HV when she was around 8 months and they told me that she’s too young to be diagnosed with anything right now but I’m naturally an anxious person and am driving myself crazy. Has anyone had a similar experience and what was the outcome? I just want to know if she’s leaning towards being autistic or not, the not knowing is what makes it worse for me.

thank you in advance

Hey OP please can I ask how is your baby now? I have similar concerns. Thank you x

Pregnantanduncomfortable · 02/06/2024 16:54

Chzm · 02/06/2024 13:44

Hey OP please can I ask how is your baby now? I have similar concerns. Thank you x

Hey! This was alllll first time mum anxiety! My toddler is happy and thriving, she is an energetic, fiercely independent, bubbly girl who enjoys back and forth play and makes lots of eye contact, responds to her name etc. She follows where you point and is developing well as far as I can tell anyway! She still isn’t the cuddliest toddler but I think that’s just her personality because she’s just so busy exploring- she will on occassion hug and kiss me but she’s not as clingy other children. I wish I hadn’t fixated on developmental milestones and constantly watched autism videos and just enjoyed my baby.

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