My daughter is 6yo.She is currently 11 months into the proposed 15mth wait for a paediatric assessment.
She can be an incredibly bubbly, fun, loving, imaginative character, but increasingly we are also seeing more attitude, aggression and unkindness.
Some of her behaviours are follows;
- Very emotionally sensitive, can have big outbursts when minor things don't go her way/someone says something she doesn't like- these can include both intense uncontrollable upset and aggression
- Struggles with certain things more than other children her age....examples being that she finds it hard remembering names, she is still in pullups at night which are always wet, can only write/draw with a fist grip, still struggles alot to ride a bike even with stabilisers, lacks motivation or persistence at tasks.
- Very easily distracted....mornings trying to get her ready are a nightmare and incentives, games etc don't always work as often she keeps forgetting what she is supposed to be doing.I struggle with this as I find it really hard to be patient and its very draining constantly chasing her up every.single.day.Try to be sympathetic but it's not easy.
- Lots of school reluctance (seems fine once there though) and when I gently probe why its always just because 'it's boring' and she often wakes up and says 'I hate school'
- Very anti- daddy (this has been going on for a while now) she says to me 'I love you more than daddy' then recently 'I hate daddy' (sometimes she smirks when she says this) then we had the other day when he asked her to do something 'I never wished for a daddy like you'.She often doesnt respond to his attempts to ask her about her day etc, and is resistant to him doing her bedtime routine instead of me, or telling her instructions or rules. When asked why she has said 'I don't like boys, i only like girls' DH is trying hard to stay calm and not match the anger,but it's obviously quite upsetting and frustrating for him.He is a very loving and devoted father and spends lots of quality time with her/us.
- Lack of tolerance with 1yo sister, not understanding she is little and can't control her behaviors eg: the other day she drew on DD1s paper and we had slamming doors and shouting at 1yo 'I hate you, I don't want you as my sister'
- She can get very anxious and panic about things...lots of fears such as bugs/hairdryers/automatic flush toilets, sirens.
She has always had very good language, amazing imagination and creative skills, and socially does pretty well (just abit overbearing sometimes....especially if someone wants the game to go differently to how she does)
We are both trying to work on our anger/stress levels with DD and not being so critical or blaming with her as admit this is something we have not been great at.
But since we have tried to be more calm and kind with her, these issues seem to have got worse! :-/
Really need ideas and guidance on how to manage this...anyone had similar experiences or can help work out what's going on pls?