Think Ds [4.4] is playing us...

[Nemoandthefishes]

so what do we do?
We have had lots of screaming and crying lately especially over going to school[nursery]. Two mornings since half term I have had to physically carry/drag him into school screaming kicking etc. However within less than 1 min of being there he has stopped crying and been giggling[doesnt know I have seen this]. So what do we do? Obv he is continuing to go to school and dh even offered bribes rewards if he didnt cry etc but he is still doing it.

ds does this with preschool.

Every fricking day.

Fine as soon as I have left.

I just ignore it and they take him off me as soon as I go in.

It makes him worse if I stay to long to settle him.

Gets on my nerves though.

don;t make a big deal of going - don't mention it until it is time to go out of the door. That way they forget to wind themselves up and only have the travel time to put on their performance.

My DS1 was a nightmare like that too - but was always fine within minutes of getting there.

armadillo its the fact other parents look at me like I am torturing him and at the same time I am pushing dd2 in pram and trying to make dd1 follow us.

therock we have tried not mentioning it but as soon as he wakes up he asks what he is doing that day. This morning prior to school he was protesting he was not going and was holding the chair legs in the dining room..this was at 7am. the school have been really good about it and they just take him off me and thats when eh stops.

anymore idea

have you tried saying ok, don't go.
then make sure you do something reeeeeeeeeeeally boring instead,
ideally stay uin and do housework, and make sure the tv is "broken"

fingerwoman might try that on monday as dds are in their nursery then.

excellent, and make sure you make a really big fuss of how exciting their morning has been and what lovely things they did at nursery.

Haha that's evil fingerwoman!

Well surprise this morning in that he didnt cry. He did beg, plead and threaten but he didnt cry..lol

hopefully just the going back after holidays thing then, and he'll be better once he settles.

thanks TC been ongoing since christmas so just hoping he is realising regardless of it all he still goes in to nursery..lol

I was just about to post a similar thread about my son!! He is 4 and has started creating about going to nursery (one day a week) He started 'worrying' about it on Monday and woke up this am at 5.15 crying about not wanting to go. He burst into tears when i left him today and so I called the nursery at about 11 to ask how he was doing. After a quick hug the offer of painting got him over it! The teacher said he is fine in the day and popular so they are not worried about him.
However he loves pre school and so don't have that issue- but he gets so wound up about nursery it affects DS2 who also goes so he then cries on being left!!! ARG
Glad I am not alone....

When DS1 gets like this we tend to just say OK
he says I don't want to go to nursery, I hate nursery
I say OK then
we get on with life for an hour get breakfast then I say shall we get ready to go out,
am I going to nursery,
Would you like to go and play with your friends
Yes
Ok lets get dressed
we get dressed and out of the house.
Am I going to nursery,
would you like to go and see (insert childs name) Yes, come on then.

I never lie to him but sometimes just avoiding the question slightly removes the trigger for a tantrum.

Once he is there with his friends in the playground he realises that he really does want to go.

Not sure that is any help but it works for us. Good luck