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Is my 8 year olds attitude a phase?

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sewingmamma23 · 17/05/2023 12:21

Please help I feel like my happy, lovely boy is turning into a mini monster his attitude has changed so much! This has been going on for well over 6 months now, He is 8 in a couple of weeks and I feel like I'm tearing my hair out!

Nothing seems to make him happy, he looks for the bad in very situation and believe me he always finds it. I'm finding it a drag to do anything with him any more because even on the nicest days there's always something wrong. Literally I can't remember the last time we got through a day without him complaining that something wasn't right.

His overall attitude with me is just awful - answering back, ignoring me, blatantly going against what I have said/what he knows is right or wrong, he's using words that - again - he knows he shouldn't (swearing/vulgar language for an almost 8 yo) and it's just a big joke to him. No consequences make the slightest bit of difference. I've taken away his tablet and his switch months ago and honestly it didn't even phase him.

He's energetic and is always playing outside when not in school (which is great) but even that ends in arguments as he's not playing nicely with his brother (turning 6) any more. It kills me because they were so close and his brother still idolises him.

I've spoken to his teacher who assures me he's brilliant in school - she said it would be his age and he's pushing his boundaries. When I've asked other friends and family they all say the same thing and that he'll come back to himself but honestly I'm worried it's too far gone and that this is just his personality now?

He still has his moments where he's amazing (and I tell him when he is I'm literally his cheerleader lol) but they're so few and far between now the bad attitude far outweighs them.

Has anyone any advice on how to handle and/or just get through this? Is it a phase or should I be worried (please be a phase please be a phase)

Thanks in advance Flowers

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Mumtoboys1 · 18/05/2023 23:50

My boy turned 8 in January and one thing I did notice and so did teachers is he's started to be more aware socially and trying to fit in and copy other kids. So it could be a phase. I know teachers don't always tell all the truth they sugar coat a lot of stuff. Especially at parents evenings. I know a lot of kids behave differently in school and at home too tho, they tend to act more ' naughty, misbehave ect' when they feel safe to do so so it could be some positive light there in terms of how comfortable he is.

FloweryGardener · 19/05/2023 06:49

Sound a lot like my 10yr old! It's like having a grumpy teenager.

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