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High Needs Toddler Hating Life

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Rusty1983 · 07/05/2023 07:09

We had a lovely dc2 up until September/October. He was a happy content baby. Since then, he's been an absolute nightmare and I don't know what to do anymore. He's 20months now, this started just after his 1st birthday.

He whines and cries constantly, climbs furniture, no means nothing to him, has meltdowns and tantrums at anything he's not allowed, eats hardly anything anymore other than cheese or yoghurt (everything else gets flung back at you), loves peppa pig but has little interest in any toys. I try to be quite a firm parent and no means no. We have boundaries and clear expectations but these things don't seem to work with him at all.

Even the smallest most normal tasks are impossible with him. We don't dream of going out anywhere because you couldnt take him anywhere without him kicking off. I can't even go on the school run with dc1 without him screaming when I stop the buggy.

He only goes to nursery 2 days a week as nowhere here has space for anymore days/children so I'm stuck with him the rest of the time.
He loves being active and being outside but we live in Scotland and it's still freezing so he doesn't get out as much as he'd like.

Since sep he's has 6 ear infections (1 just now), S&D twice, HFM and a constant runny now. All which the doctors tell me is normal. (My eldest was never this sick)

I'm not sure what I'm looking for or why I'm putting all of this here but I guess I just feel we can't keep living our life like this, it's not living. He's having such a negative effect on our whole family.
Does anyone have any advice or tips on how to deal with this kind of thing because we don't know what to do anymore 😢😢😢

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AmyLaila · 09/05/2023 11:42

Hi, your son may be showing some autistic traits. Have you spoken to your health visitor?

Rusty1983 · 09/05/2023 12:21

@AmyLaila we had the HV come round a couple of weeks ago as I was wondering the same thing but she said there was nothing that made her think there was any underlying issue

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AmyLaila · 09/05/2023 12:50

I would get your child assessed by a paediatrician. Get the HV to refer you. I do feel sometimes HV's undertook things.

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