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Is this normal?

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Cappuccino17 · 02/05/2023 06:57

I'm a bit worried about how i connect with my kids. I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old.
At home things are fine, we do many activities together, they come to me for everything just basically normal motherly duties. But at the end of it all i feel like a good mum.
The issue is when i go out in crowds they ignore me more or less. They'll come to me for a few minutes but then they'll prefer other people much more even long lost cousins (my age) that theyl just gravitate to. An example is my age 3 son wanted my cousin to hold him and when she tried to pass him back to me he was kicking his legs saying he wanted to stay with her. He doesn't even know her so it was a bit strange. We just laughed. He did the same when she tried to pass him to my husband. But normally kids are clinging to thier mums and dads.
My elder daughter is the same she will befriend women my age and ignore me and say the nicest things to them. Honestly i think its sweet but i question hey how come my kids are ignoring me? every now and again she will come to me and give me a hug but that's it.
When i get home theyre clinging to me again and i feel a little annoyed.

Anyone advice what is going on here? It's upsetting because i feel I'm not their go to person when we are out. I feel they dont need me and prefer any other person (usually a female) apart from me!

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Miriam101 · 02/05/2023 14:53

OK, I sort of understand where you're coming but honestly I think you're viewing this the wrong way. Your kids are loved and know they're loved (and love you in return- as shown by their behaviour at home) and that gives them the confidence and security to go out in the world and engage with other people (where of course they ignore you- you're not that interesting, they see you every day and know you're always going to be there for them.) Fantastic! Would you really rather kids who were glued to your leg, refusing to leave your side? I doubt it. My kids are a similar age and show similar behaviour and it wouldn't occur to me to find it worrying or hurtful.

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