Is this normal?

[FlosstyTheSnowman]

DS won't be put down without us. He sleeps in our bed, snuggled right up to me, he won't settle down in his moses basket, which is next to our bed, at all. He will fall asleep and as soon as he is put down, however gently, will wake up and cry untill he is back with us again day or night. It is obviously sweet, but I am a little worried that this behaviour is going to stay? He is only a month today, am I expecting too much from him?

Ooh...interesting! I am the same with ds2 who is 3 weeks and one day! He wont settle in his Moses basket either....well not for long and so I have him in bed with me. I have put DH in with DS1 and me and ds2 sleep in our bed. Am so tired that it is easier for me to sleep with him but I am worried too that I am setting a pattern for the future.

As I know this is my last baby it is as though I want to spend as much time with him as possible and I know I am spoiling him as I didnt do this with ds1.

No help Floss, sorry! Am interested in the answer though!

DS used to be like this all the time (except for when he would sleep in the car or pushchair).

Until he was about 6 weeks old he always slept on one of DH and me (normally me and normally in a sitting up position - me not him ).

He then started to be able to be put into his Moses basket and by the time he was 8 weeks I was managing to put him to moses basket in the evening and come downstairs. I remember being very excited when that first happened .

Now he is a year and a bit and will only fall asleep on us if he is ill . In some ways I miss the little baby he used to be.

So anyway, to answer your question, your Ds sounds very normal, his behaviour will probably stay for a while but not forever and one day you will probably miss it

Hello Flossty, my little boy was just the same. I found it hard to change his behaviour when he was a little older but its not impossible. I would just keep doing what you are doing, he is only a month old and thats still very tiny. Hope this helps a little bit

Ds wouldn't settle either, but he would eventually if I rocked the carry cot a bit (don't expect you can do that with a moses basket). After 3 months or so I waited till he was realy tired and then left him to go to sleep - I aid on the bed and shushed him at first, then just left him. (I wish I had done that sooner).

He still yells whenever he is put down to sleep on his own (he's 10 months), but always goes to sleep within 10 mins - if I go in to see him it makes it worse.

Don't know if any of that helps you, though!.

I remember this with DS, i was at the end of my tether with exhaustion.
We tried:
~A nighty in his moses basket, theory is that it has my smell on it??!! (didnt work)
~wrapping him up tightly in a blanket (didnt work)
~rolled up towel under the matress to lift him head up slightly.(didnt work)
I could go on and on with every thing that didnt work, however that would not be useful to you.
In the end, i let him sleep on me, just to get some sleep.
The HV frightened me about the baby over~ heating against me blah blah blah.
It turned out that he absolutely hated the swinging bed that we had (you know, like a rocking cot, side to side)for him. He would sleep in his chair wrapped up in a blanket so i did this for several weeks and this was better. Then i put him in a moses basket at the side of me. Sometimes it worked other times not.
My point is that we tried every thing out of sheer desperation and went with whatever worked. You may have to do the same thing.
Please be reassured that it is only for a short time, things will get better as he gets older. This is what ive found in my experience. I feel for you tho, its very frustrating isnt it.

Piccadilly, he will sleep in his pushchair too! Occaisionally a little eye opens to make sure we are still there, but thats it untill it's feeding time!! I know it is lovely, especially whilest both of us are off with him, but I am worried how I will ever get anything done when DP goes back to work in a couple of weeks! I suppose I should be grateful that he at least wants to be with us!!

I had the same problem with DS. He would drop off in our arms, but as soon as he was put in his moses he was awake. We had to stay with him with a hand on his chest until he dropped off, or pick him up again and rock him to sleep only to try to put him down again.
The problem stopped when I started using a grobag. He gets warm in it during his last feed, then doesn't feel the cold of the mattress. However, he was about 3 months old and I'm not sure if grobags are suitable for young babies.
But I did read something recently which you could try:

1. Put a hot water bottle on the mattress for a few minutes before baby goes in to stop the mattress being cold compared to your warmth. Obviously take it out before baby goes in.
2. Take a cloth/muslin to bed with you so it gets your scent/warmth on it and place it under baby when he goes to bed. It may fool him into thinking he is still in your arms. Hope this helps!! Let me know

All 3 Ds's were like that.

Infact after ds1+2 hated the moses basket so much I didn't bother using one at all when ds3 came along, he went straight into the cot. To start with he would only settle with a cuddle but was able to settle himself much earlier that the other 2 who had gone from moses basket to cot.

Not that this is much use for you of course

not that that makes any sense either!!!!

Normal, and it doesn't have to last. My ds was like this at first, never, ever liked his (very expensive!) moses basket yet went into his cot no trouble. He didn't sleep well until he was 8months, but lots of babies who go on to sleep well from an early age like to be close to their mothers when they are very, very tiny.

I know how it feels, and I know it seems something to concern yourself with. And I've said it before, but you can't spoil them for at least the first three months, and remember how he's spent 9 cosy months so very close to you, that it's hard to be separated from you now! In fact right now - he doesn't even realise he is a separate entity! He still thinks he is part of you and visa versa! It's so lovely and beautiful and please enjoy the closeness!

I worried with DD1 but with DD2, she slept on my chest for virtually 2 months and I lapped it up!

Plenty of time ahead to alter things.

I had the opposite a dd who would never settle with me in bed until age 2yrs when she got so ill she finally decided on spending one night with us, it was bliss.
My 1st a ds bed shared til he was almost 5, happily sleeping alone when required though in his own room, we both just loved it so much.
They do go through phases of indifference and deep clinginess though all spectrums are normal I believe!
Enjoy it while you can, that 1st, my DS is now 10 and I cannot get near him for love nor money...

They're still very undeveloped at this age, I wouldn't worry about having them in bed with you. Once they start to become more aware and regulated you can do more about it although you must give them the opportunity to sleep alone. Tricky to decide when and how the time is right but I would say around 2 months sleeping alone all the time but get to that gradually. Mind you, now I think about it both mine (although one has SN) didn't sleep with me EVERY nap or night but quite often at a very young age.