six year old - never seems to understand right from wrong

[southeastastra]

it's really getting me down. just collected him from a friend's house and he'd taken some lego without asking. i know now he realises he's done wrong but he should know not to do that in the first place.

i don't know how his brain works

all the other children his age seem so much more mature.

doesn't anyone have any advice?

He's still young - its not that uncommon for children of his age to be confused about stuff like this. Did he say why he took it?

I don't know. I have a 6 yr old but you'll need to give more examples. I also have a 7yr old who frequently gets this sort of thing wrong.

he just took it straight out of his pocket in front of me. it's like he just can't grasp that it's wrong.

he's also quite behind at school in lots of things and has an iep. i just asked him what 2 and 2 were and he said 3 . i nag him constantly so probably don't help in the long run.

Have you spoken to the special needs people at school? If he has an IEP, perhaps they could give you some strategies to try and help him at home?

I really wouldn't worry about special needs or anything (not yet at least!). He's so youbg. I remember when I was about five I stole some crayons from my firend at school (why, I don't know!) I remember thinking it was no big deal until my mum got mad and made me give them back and say sorry! What I mean is- I think a lot of kids go through this, it's easy to see something they want and just take it. He will learn the same way I did. I swear I'm not a shoplifter or anything- honest!

no, I didn't mean she needed to! I meant if he had an IEP already then perhaps they have strategies in place at school to help him that she could use iyswim!

It sounds like you are worried about lots of things sea, that's all.

he did seem surprised that i told him off for taking them, like it hadn't occured to him that it was wrong.

i'll see the sen people soon so will talk to them about him. maybe i'm just worrying too much.

Sorry foxinsox- I wasn't getting at your post! I just think she's worried about it and I think it's fairly common for kids to do naughty stuff and not really see it as being wrong. Just didn't want southeastastra to think her son if different. Sounds quite normal to me! We're not born with moral codes- we learn right from wrong and sounds like you're doing fine so far! He's only 6- I'm not sure my maths was that great when I was that age either!

Hummm. Hard to know Sea, I've got 6 and 8. They both know taking is wrong, but my 6 might try it. Did he seem to have no understanding that it was wrong?

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