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4 year old wants everything

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warmmfeet · 18/04/2023 14:41

Is it normal for 4 year olds to just want everything and whinge all the time? And also how to deal with it?

Mine is Lego obsessed and obviously there is so much different Lego out there. He's got loads and he does play with it. But then he suddenly decides he needs the next thing and he fixates on it and goes absolutely berserk that he doesn't have it.

I tell him he can't just have it, he can wait for birthday or Christmas. He's very high strung and stubborn so it goes on for ages, screaming and sobbing. Repeating I WANT IT NOWWWW
We don't let him watch you tube or adverts but he sees magazines or the little leaflets that come in the boxes with all the other sets you can get and he studies them.

I find it so hard to tolerate because as a child I barely ever got new toys and don't remember reacting like him and thinking I should be allowed them. Also because he's got a lot of toys already, and everything he could ever need.

We occasionally buy him a random treat toy but not just because he wants it.

I don't know what I'm asking but is this normal parenting for him to act like this and me to feel so furious about it?! Obviously it goes without saying that I utterly adore him! I'm proud of his Lego skills. I don't want him to become entitled but it's like he already is a bit. ☹️

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warmmfeet · 18/04/2023 16:49

Lol no one ever replies to my ramblings. I guess I just needed to vent anyway! We repaired, baked some flap jacks and read some books and he's got over his burning need for Lego Batman ... for now!

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MargaretThursday · 18/04/2023 19:24

It is normal. Just continue as you are doing, not getting it straight away and occasionally getting a little extra treat toy.
They do mostly grow out of it, although I have been known to walk round a shop with my 19yo with the word "no" occurring regularly, although it's no longer toys she's after.

warmmfeet · 18/04/2023 21:16

@MargaretThursday thanks for replying! I had a feeling this was just normal parenting but after the intense meltdown today I was feeling so exasperated I thought I'd check!

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MattieandmummyandIs · 18/04/2023 21:23

Definitely another I WANT IT NOOOOW in our house or rather BUT I CAN'T WAAAAAAIT. Mine is also four. Delightful but also exhausting. It is getting better though, she said hopefully.

warmmfeet · 20/04/2023 19:31

@MattieandmummyandIs sorry you have one too. Glad to hear it gets slightly better maybe

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