Is this possibly ADHD or just 'a typical boy' sorry long post !

[Mum20185]

My son is 3 (4 in August) and I've had some concerns about him the last few months. Since he was little he's always been 'a typical boy' as I've been told but I'm unsure is some of his behaviours are more than that

Running away when told numerous times not to

Making random silly noises for no apparent reason

Random impulses (example will just shout something random, or randomly throw a tow while he is sitting there watching tv)

Often acts without thinking ( will randomly throw a toy at his baby sister, but other times he is so good and kind to her)

Not much sense of danger (for example he jumped from put 7th step onto the floor causing to have a bug bump on his head)

Extremely fidgety, if he's watching his ipas he will be in all soft of positions while doing this (I'm very aware I should probably cut the ipas out, although he does use it for many educational games )

Ignoring simple instructions ( fully understand what we are saying just choose to ignore us as sometimes he will do these instructions, other times we will have to ask 5 or 6 times )

Very inpatient excessive talking

Cannot sit still for very long (although he will sit ant watch certain things like Dino Dana)

Constantly hyperactive

For example today a neighbour came around today, my son stood st thr door making stupid noises (making me look like an idiot tbh) then as soon as they went he stopped , so I'm unsure If some of it is also for attention.

I have spoken with his nursery, they said he is lively ,and when he firsr stated goinf he wasn't sharing ,although that has improved since me and my husbans spoke to him about it
I am aware many of these things are 'normal behaviour' for this age, but i just feel like there is more too it

Having said all this, I feel he is very bright and able, he will sit ans complete a whole jigsaw (age 4+) and he amazes me how well he does them, if he's occupied and pushed his behaviour is different ,so I don't know if his behaviour is out of bordem? He absolutely loves being ourdoor and I try and do this as much as possible ( we get outside every day is it is not raining)

I just don't know if I'm over thinking, or just being a rubbish parent to be honest😫😭

If you feel that he's a little out of sync with his peers, I would ask to speak to SENCO at Nursery and see what they think.

Have you spoken to your HV? I think it's worth asking her to do an Ages & Stages Assessment.

Thank you for your reply , he actually had an assessment about 8 months ago as for some reason he never got a 2 year assessment! (Due to lockdown i assume ) They had absolutely no concerns at all at that time@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto

Do you know what assessment to they used?

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto I am now 100% sure. I have the paperwork from it somewhere so i will try and find it tomorrow

I could have written your post word for word! (Including Dino Dana!)

we are concerned about my son and nursery have highlighted that they are too.

I’ve just been looking at what ADHD books I could get to help us to parent his needs x

I think my nearly four year old has it he acts the same but also shows sensory issues too with noise and food, i don’t think it’s autism I’m thinking adhd as there are many types. They don’t diagnose untill 6 years old so I think all you can do is wait till school notices anything once they start??

Hi I feel I’m here to complain about my 6 year old really I’m not I’m looking for advice from mums experiencing the same as what me & my partner do I don’t know how to begin her behaviour is awful since the birth of our 3rd child she’s forever hitting her non stop takes things off her screams tantrums till eventually we give in we do try stick to our rules she’s so strong minded about having her own way all the time what she wants screams hits for a good hour or so no amount of talking gentle cuddles kisses distractions anything we try does not work this is every day and night morning noon she night several times each day every single day not one day goes by without her kicking off it would be lovely for her to be more calm when she’s calm she is lovely it doesn’t last long the least thing sets her off on one we love her dearly she then throws things kicks doors breaks things in public people stare at us as we choose to ignore her till she stops but she wins again in the end she has had issues at school with hitting other kids too can’t pay attention in class can’t hear instructions when given them at home in school full stop does not listen certain things have to be done a certain way too or that can have a huge impact on her where again she kicks off again and over the smallest of things could this be ADHD ? AUTISM ? also teacher mentioned she writes letters backwards says things back to front too we feel when speaking to her she doesn’t seem to understand what we say we don’t know what we can do about it there are times it gets us really down I have been reduced to tears we tell her all the time we love her give her cuddles kisses spend time with her nothing Makes any difference she is a lovely little girl with a kind heart it’s frustrating for us as we don’t know what else we can do other than contact the gp we dread as to being fobbed off we do feel she has some sort of behavioural issue it is just getting diagnosed and heard she attacks our dog too if it’s not the dog it’s her sister if it’s not her sister it me and her dad she lashes out at any advice would be appreciated thanks xx

Hello @Glammymammy3 what has school said about her hitting? Have they suggested anything at all?

Could you ask for a meeting with her Teacher and ask for their School SENCO to assess her?

It sounds at the very least like she needs a hearing test and referring to SLT, some Emotional Literacy sessions from school, Dyslexia screening and referring to Community Paediatrics for Assessment.

Please don't worry about going to the GP either.

Try to film her when she's having s meltdown, so that you can show it to the GP. Also, write down bullet points of everything she's doing like not understanding & listening, hitting in school and at home and writing backwards. Just take a list with you so that you don't forget to mention anything, show them a video of one of her meltdowns as ask for referrals fir a hearing test, SLT and an assessment by Community Paediatrics.

Keep posting too, there are usually people around on MN who have experienced similar. It might be worth having a look in the SN Children Section on here too

@Glammymammy3 forgot to add a bit, some MNers have had some success with the book The Explosive Child.

It might be worth having a look at whilst you wait for appointments with her Teacher and the GP

@Mum20185 how are you both getting on now?