For people with early movers - Do you ever feel resentful?

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I do love my DS (13m) and I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but recently I’m just so jealous of people whose babies stayed still for the first few months of life. My memory is quite bad anyway but looking back at photos he was;

3-4m rolling
4m we had to buy a new buggy because he hated being laid down in the bassinet and always turned over in it. IT WAS SO FUCKING ANNOYING. Also started to try to crawl
Then at 5-7m it all kicked off - mastered crawling, stood, cruised and at about 10m started walking “properly” and it’s been non stop since then 😅

Rarely napped in the day until the last couple of months, used to fall asleep for 20mins max.

Was just reading a thread about how easy some people’s babies were, they can just put them in their bouncer and shower, have a coffee etc. I’m just so jealous to the point where I’m moderately irritated 😂

Does anyone else ever feel this. I’m just feeling so resentful at the moment about it all. I know everyone’s life experiences are so varied and I probably sound ungrateful but I just wanted a baby who didn’t move until a bit later

But you have no guarantee that your baby would have sat there placidly and content even if they hadn’t been an early mover.

My son didn’t crawl until ten months and it was genuine hell. Months on end of him screaming for the majority of the day because he was so frustrated at his inability to move. I certainly couldn’t have a shower with him in the bouncer or sit with a quiet coffee without him losing the plot. The change in his happiness was genuinely overnight as soon as he could move.

Same as PP, my DD didn’t roll until 8.5 months and didn’t crawl until 10.5 months but I certainly couldn’t put her in a bouncer to shower, make food etc without her screaming the house down. She wanted to be glued to me 24/7 and was like it until she started walking at 15 months.

Both my DDs were intense, interactive, early movers who didn't (and don't) need much sleep. I think it is a bit swings and roundabouts – yes, I certainly had moments of mild envy at the mums in the group sat drinking coffee with baby on their knee quietly gumming a toy whilst I did laps of the room, then tried to keep DD from trying to drink out of an adult cup or drop her toy in someone's coffee, etc. I remain somewhat bemused at the idea of a child sleeping 7-7, possibly with a two hour nap on top!

However, they always 'gave something back', they locked onto faces within days, smiled early, DD2 has actively enjoyed a play park since 6 months old (useful when DD1 pretty much considers it a waste of a weekend day if there isn't a park involved!). It also obviously removed one area of worry about their development.

I think some babies are 'hard' and some babies are 'easy', but for most, they're easy in some ways and hard in others. I'd think it's normal to have moments of longing for your hard bits to be easy – but don't forget that others will have moments of looking at your baby and thinking the same, wishing theirs would crack crawling so they'd be less frustrated or whatever.

DD1 who beautifully sat and played from age 6 months to 10 months was far easier than dd2 who crawled at 5 months and walked at 8 months.
I think aged now early 20s , dd1 would still sit and read/play beautifully while dd2 dashes round. 😂