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Concerns about 14month old development!

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ElSimpo · 12/04/2023 09:00

i have two massive concerns about my 14 month old ds. Sorry if I am over reacting but he’s my first and Im not overly knowledgeable. HV isn’t very helpful, I told her my concerns over the phone and she said ‘hhmmmmmm, well let’s just see in a years time, but he’s your son so I don’t blame you for worrying’ WTF! Two main concerns are his communication and eating.

he is 14 months and still not pointing, he just gestures to what he wants with his whole hand, eg. dummy, drink etc. He will pass me toys and play sharing games for example rolling a ball to each other. If we’re reading a book and I say ‘where’s the cow?’ He will shams gesture or tap towards an animal. But no pointing at all. He also still isn’t saying any words, he doesn’t say mama at all, just mmmmm, and I don’t know if he’s saying it at me? He says dadadada but again he isn’t saying it towards his dad. He babbles and makes sounds, he smiles and laughs but doesn’t make any other facial expression, eg. sad, worried.

his diet is appalling. He just won’t touch ANY fruit or veg. He will eat anything in puréed form so he must enjoy the taste but not the texture. He gags on beans and pasta. Same with scrambled egg.

he loves his toys and is good with sorting things and putting smaller objects inside bigger objects. He’s gross motor is good, he can crawl, walk and climb the stairs.

I am just so worried that the lack communication and fussy eating points towards autism, any more seasoned parents than me have any experience with this? Or has anyone else had a child like mine and they’ve gone on to develop normally?

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 12/04/2023 22:44

From experience I'd wouldn't let the HV adopt the "wait and see approach".

We did and it took years to get any kind of support.

I would call the HV again and ask her to do the Ages & Stages assessment.

I'd also do this Speech & Language progress checker before speaking to your HV.

They have a useful helpline if it throws up any concerns.

In your position the very least I'd want from the HV is to be referred for a hearing test and fir her to do the ASQ-3 assessment.

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