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I have never seen my 6yo so badly behaved before - shocked.

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/02/2008 16:21

My dd who is 7 next month has always had a bit of a short fuse. When she's rude or naughty which I don't thin she is excessivly she we use the naughty step or loss of TV as punishment.

Today she is making a Valentine's card for me and something went wrong - in her eyes it was obviously a catasophe. She lost it big time. I was trying to help rectify it nice and calm and then she has a full blown paddy, screaming and dancing up and down on the spot flailing her arms about. She ran across to the table and pulled one of the (heavy) dining room chairs over. So I told her to go on the naughty step. She refused and picked up my big sewing scissors to try and cut the card. I told her to put the scissors down and she refused and as I walked across to her she ran across the room with the scissors. I was scared she was going to slip. She ran and sat on the step and I went to remove the scissors and shes still refusing to give them to me and was now waving her arms about with this huge pair of scissors that I was trying to grab. Well I'm ashamed to say I slapped her round the face as it was the only part of her I could reach without being stabbed and she was so hysterical. She calmed down (briefly) and I got the scissors off her. Told her to go to her room and agin she refused. I had to pick her up and physically put her in her room. I've told her she's not coming out this evening. She has such a temper and when she gets like this is horrendous. I don't know what to do - help. And please don't tell me off for slapping her, I know I shouldn't have.

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dustystar · 15/02/2008 10:24

Did you mean you've tried it before stripy or tried it just then?

It generally takes a couple of weeks (sometimes more) for the kids to get the idea. When you first start it its quite normal to have tantrums etc.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 15/02/2008 11:31

Dusty, I've been doing it for years. My variation is "I'm going to count to 5 and by the time I get to 5 I want this to stop or its the naughty step". Then we do naughty step.

She did eventually calm down last night and we had a good chat about how rather than her getting upset it would have been better for her if she'd kept calm and let me help. She agreed.

I lie the idea of having a trigger work and also the traffic light thing. Will have to try those.

Thanks for all the advice

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