13mth old with temper tantrums

[mishiclaus]

hi all
over the past couple of weeks..coincidentally since ive found out i am pg...ds has started to have horrible temper tantrums...i know its frustration etc and i try to ignore them..i.e. lie him on the floor and let him get on with it but i am there and as soon as he is finished i talk to him and reassure him etc,..but he just seems to be getting worse we have already had about 6 this morning 4 of which while out and i hate the fact that because of his age n size other people look at me like i am the worst mum ever....there does tend to be a couple of reasons y he has them...either he wants to be carried so drops to his knees and screams or he doesnt want to walk where u r going but in an opposite direction so if u pick him up he starts...then just genereally around the house if he doesnt get my attention over something..the thing is until recently he was a placid aid back little boy who is quite advanced...now he just seems to be a horror and i am reallly worried about having him and another baby to look after now...the tantrums have also coincided with him dropping his naps to only one half hr sleep but he is also sleeping less of a night.i try to get him to nap either a couple of times or for longer but he just wont...sorry to go on but i really dont know what to do so any ideas would be great....
take care

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Oh poor you sending you lots of {{{{hugs}}}}. He might be young to start tantrums but its not that unusual. The first time my dd threw herself down on the floor in a rage coincided with when she first learnt to stand up at 10 months. Forget what other people think - it does not make you a bad mum. Ultimately someone will always think that you are doing the wrong thing so you just have to do what you think is best and to hell with anyone who disagrees. Sounds like you are doing the right thing in ignoring the tantrums. If you want a good book that will make you laugh as well as giving you tips on how to cope I can recommend DR Green's "Toddler Taming". When I read it I felt like he had met me and dd and was writing about us.

aww thanx i will try it i need something before i lose the plot..lol

Snap, my now 18 month old started temper tantrums about the same age. His were mostly about going about in the buggy. I had people stare at me and stop me in the street as he screamed blue murder. The deal we came to was he could walk a certain distance ( until the main road )and then he would go in his buggy. The other trick I still use is to bribe him to go into his buggy - normally with a bread stick or rice cake ( he is ruled by his stomach ). If you don't want to do that is to have a stash of toys that he can only play with if he does what you want him to do ie: go in buggy. Also works for getting him to lie on his changing mat while changing pooey nappies.

I have found that as he has started to understand more he has got better, he still strops out about everything. But if I tell him what is going to happen and find a way to remove him from a situation then he calms down amazingly quickly when you imagine what a racket he was making.

With a quick tempered toddler, which is how I view him, you have to make an effort not to be scared by their tantrums.

Ello, I'm not stalking you honest!! :o Just wanted to say Theo's really started doing this now! He does it more at home at the moment (thanks god), anywhere near the changing mat and we get screams kicks flails scratches back arching... food he doesn't like? The same, anything! UGH! He's only 9 months old! Lol... I hope it's a phase for you tho Mishi - you don't need that and a bump every day!! hugs (Sorry was no help at all!)