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Any mom !do they ever speak?

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mthrofflwr · 04/04/2023 11:01

my boy 25months old
he still not developed speech,only says 30words,that too for labelling sometimes for request, he's receptive language is also seems poor he understands less, it's very hard for me to see him like this . every kid i see at vaccination centre and neighbourhood are talking and sharing enjoying with their mom in some of are younger than my kid, some of are at same age,they are talking like a storm ,i was sobbing through out the way home ..my boy even struggling to form a words...but still he is happy boy with 100 names response eye contact.he points started at 18months great joint attention, enjoys peekaboo he is social play with us , ..but still he is not trying to imitate sounds.. we went children psychologist he dismissed my concerns as he giving good eye contact(he just observed him like 5min), but speech is behind I think he's at 10-12months age in speech,here in India we don't have EI services, there are few which runs by private organisation and it's too expensive, we don't have right to openly discuss this matter ,if i discuss with my husband and family they thinks I'm nuts all they say is "your brother is also late talker they will get there at their own space "but my mom's gut telling something is really wrong.i have nobody to discuss I'm anxious depressed if i tell my husband he just yells at me he always says that our son is fine.i don't know wheather it's autism or anything I'm unable to give my son support he needs.cause I'm helpless , everyday I'm having suicidal thoughts,no eating, not interested in everything,just crying at nights ,waking up middle of the night googling and crying , what on earth this autism is why my boy has it, why he is born at place where there are no resources to help him.i wish I was never born

any mom went through the face please share your experience and Plz reassure me that my boy will talk and say I love you mom ...
my mama heart really needs 😭😭

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RiverRock22 · 04/04/2023 15:36

Do you have health visitors where you are @mthrofflwr ? Or how is the development of your child measured?

Delayed speech isn't always autism nor does Autism always have delayed speech.

I have a lot of similar worries about my child, I know the lack of appetite, worry and endless googling. I coped by contacting all the available agencies I could (I did go private) for OT and SALT and also referred for assessment through NHS so I am waiting on that.

Other than that just try to play and communicate as much as possible as that is what the professionals will advise you to do anyway.

mthrofflwr · 07/04/2023 17:33

@RiverRock22 I have 5months old daughter to look after too..im working woman,im not able to give equal attention to both ,I'm living with my parents in tiny house they said they can't take care of them both. so I send my DS to MIL house they are giving all their love to him, he is so happy there ....so for me there's no time to communicate and play with him,here I'm worrying to death about daughter also she is not engaging, not giving eyecontact when held, no babbling ,not making sounds ,always watching patterns of clothes and accessories we wearing, I'm crying really want to die,why God gave this situation..i can't quit my job beacuse if there's no job there will be no respect and cannot fill my family needs...my DH doesn't care ,all he says is they are fine he is busy in running after money and carrier , there's no one to share my feelings..i can't see when my son struggling to form words where as other kids of same age talking like a storm, I'm very anxious depressed when I'm around other kids i can't stop my self comparing with my son,it's break my heart when he doesn't understand commands we say ,im in tha place where I can't get him help he needs , nobody supporting me everyone thinks I'm nuts..he's dad can't bear the cost of the private therapy

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PritiPatelsMaker · 07/04/2023 18:04

How many languages is he exposed to @mthrofflwr? If it's more than one language that's good but bilingual and multilingual children often talk later.

Has your DS ever had a hearing test?

mthrofflwr · 08/04/2023 02:35

@PritiPatelsMaker only one language we speak at home, and his hearing is fine even i make shh with low tone he turn to me

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PritiPatelsMaker · 08/04/2023 08:07

Are you able to access any help for yourself @mthrofflwr? It sounds as though you might be depressed Flowers

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