Early autism signs?

[TheADHDmum]

Someone made a passing comment to be about my 10.5 month old and it’s raised a lot of questions for me.

At her 10-12 month review, the HV also agreed with some said points and said although no red flags she’s showing signs of Autism, and I don’t know why but I’m freaking out!

She rocks back and forth whilst sitting very frequently

She does give eye contact but not consistently

She does answer her name but again not consistently

She doesn’t interact much with other babies

She doesn’t smile in photos or such, and doesn’t smile much when being smiled at. She does, but not consistently

Shes indifferent with toys and prefers to spin things in circles such as spinner toys and roller toys or wheels on things

She doesn’t much like affection, she won’t cuddle into me or lay with me

Whilst she crawls and tries to stand, she isn’t surfing the sofas or able to sit down from a standing position

The comments people have made have caused me to start worrying and spiralling and I guess I just need someone to talk to 🥺

Hi! My little girl is also 10.5 months and is much the same but I’m not concerned about development now at all. I used to be as I think I suffered with a bit of postpartum anxiety.

Babies of this age aren’t meant to consistently respond to their name despite what Google would make you believe. My girl also isn’t very affectionate but I think babies of this age are so distracted by the world around them that they don’t want to sit still for a cuddle,it’s totally normal.

Whos comments about your little ones development made you worry? Im not trying to disregard your concerns but everything you’re describing sounds completely normal.

My son was the exact same at that age apart from the rocking! He did flappy hands/twisty wrists which has now stopped. I had severe postnatal anxiety about autism (due to a life event when I was younger which is a story for another day) and from 7 months to 11 months I was so worried - CONSTANTLY comparing him. I’m so so so angry at myself for missing out on enjoying him. She’s far to little - again like above poster, I’m not disregarding your concerns, I know how that feels.

15 months now and is still obsessed with wheels but feel that’s down to the rotation schema and he is no longer doing what’s on your list.. he’s very bright! Give her chance to develop about more but just keep an eye on things 🥰

he even comes up for a cuddle now 🥺 before he would do anything to get away from me. Wouldn’t bat an eyelid at nursery drop off either.

Thank you to both of you for replying to me. I’m sure I am overreacting. Just sick of people comparing her to others and it’s put me on edge. I also feel like I’m beginning to miss out on her growing up because I’m looking at everything she does and worrying about it.

Perhaps I should just stop being silly and just see where things go. Thank you again x

@TheADHDmum hi, could I ask how is your baby doing now? I am going through something similar (you can see in my posts) and worried sick. Would be happy to chat and keep each other company.

@Boymamaxx did your son do anything similar to this video? Mine does pretty much an identical thing and I am just so sad as I can see that it resulted for diagnosis for the YouTube poster. https://m.youtube.com/shorts/81BdRQm-rhw?feature=share thank you for sparing a minute for a worried mum x

Hello @Wobblyheart - I'm boymamaxx but have since had to create a new account!

The link on the video you've sent wasn't like my son, he wasn't as jolty as such and a lot more flowly. Not sure if you've attached a video as just shows a black box with a loading sign but nothing plays.

He is 18 months now and has 80+ words, absolutely none of the flapping hands/wrists (stopped almost over night) - I have some concerns again about his hearing but having a hearing test - I do think he's just more ignoring me though. Hes social, smiles, gestures.. he's probably advanced for his age. Nursery say he's doing amazing. Learning colours and can count to 5/10 with help.

He still spins wheels but not to a point it effects him socially or playing with other toys - vehicles are just his preference.