I'm posting this to get some ideas that I can feedback to my sister. A little background:
Sister is 8mths pregnant and this will be her 2nd child (diff Dad to Zak)
They just bought a new house and are planning on moving in soon.
Now, my nephew is 8. Background on him:
Spends every second weekend with his Dad 50miles away.
Gets on well with the kids in class. 8 of them came to his birthday in October.
Active boy. Plays football on the weekends he's not with his Dad. Goes to karate class once a week after school. Goes ice skating once a week after school.
Plays on PS5 and watches YouTube on his iPad.
His Dad has created him a YouTube account that he posts to when he's there (without my sisters permission). He also gave him an iPhone which again was without sisters permission.
One of the boys in the class - M - was violent towards the other boys in the class. Punching, kicking, pushing them over, swearing (using the c word), he even threw my nephew down the stairs a few months ago. The parents rallied together and formally all complained to the Head - this is after months / years of complaining to teachers.
Fast forward to this year (since February) and my nephew has somehow become the bully. Him and another boy - A - together with M (the original bully) - now play together during break time and have been punching and kicking other children in the playground. These are children my nephew spends time with outside of school. He does not play with A or M outside of school time.
Apparently yesterday, nephew and M were playing and were practicing torture on another boy. He told them to stop but they were pushing him down and trying to hurt him until an older child stepped in and told them to stop.
Sister has asked the school to make sure they don't play together, but it's clearly not working. He doesn't seem to care that he is hurting other kids. He has lost his PS5 / tablet, but what else can she do? He is showing no shame, but cries when he gets told off by my sister.
Help please.
All of the boys in the class, including my nephew are in counselling due to the bullying of M. I'm hoping this helps but...wtf?