Tantrums

[Sindy99]

Hi guys! just need some advice my 17 month old started hitting recently and spitting out food for no reason as well. The tantrums are getting more and more frequent. He seems to be a daddies boy and only wants dad when hes home, I just feel helpless when it comes to tantrums cause he wont let me pick him up or anything he just wants dad. Any advice? what can I do? With spitting out the food and hitting also?

Has anyone experienced similar - my 22mo baby has only just stopped breastfeeding (about a week ago). He woke up from his nap yesterday and was just laying in his cot, he didn't want to be picked up. As the minutes went by he started to whine a little, but didn't want me to pick him up and kept batting me away. It escalated and I took him out of his cot but he seemed really distressed by me, and was rolling around on the floor crying a lot. It was almost like he didn't recognise me. I had to work really hard to regulate myself and not panic. He only calmed down when I took him into the sitting room and put cartoons on.
His language is great and usually chats away as soon as I go in to get him up. It was horrible! 😢

Hello, think I'm posting my post incorrectly! I need to work out how to start a new thread!

In reply to your situation Sindy - we have been through a hitting and biting phase, as well as fussy eating/spitting out food. Around the same age actually.
I definitely got the brunt of the hitting and biting, it was like the little one felt safe to do it to me.
We were consistent with putting in the boundary, every time he did it we would would say "no biting, kind mouth" (or hands etc) and over a few weeks it declined a lot. Occasionally I would get super frustrated (or hurt! Ouch!!) and we'd add a "go sit on your blue cushion" (that's we're he goes when he's been quite naughty!) and we'd give him a minute there with a bit of distance from us if poss, or keeping him sat of not, and then we'd say again "no hitting, kind hands" and then have a cuddle.
Rarely happens now (22mo) but I've heard other parents whose children have had longer phases of it.