17 month old hitting/slapping....whats a mom and dad to do?

[livysmum]

DD is 17 months and has in the past 2 weeks been hitting me, dad, nana, aunt anyone really. We could be sitting reading a book ans she'll take a swat at you. or of course when you take something away or make her wait for something.
Dad seems to think a slap on the hand and a stren voice of 'no, we dont hit thats naughty' is the way, but surely you cant tell a kid not to hit and then you hit them on the hand.
I on the other hand, hold it close to her and say strenly NO we do not hit its naughty and of course the lip comes out and she'll maybe even try again to hit.
What can we do? naughty spot? I feel she may be too young and will she even understand the method? Please give your input on any ideas or experience.
Thanks :D

I agree that you can't expect to stop a child hitting by hitting but that is just my opinion.

I used to say a firm (not shouting) "No" and then at that age I would try and distract them, if she persists then I would stop whatever activity we were doing and walk away. Good luck

I used to stop what I was doing and walk away from ds. He hated being ignored so it worked very well. If he did it somewhere that I couldn't leave him I used to hold his hands down by his side, or both of his hands in one of mine and then look away from him into the distance for a minute or two.

i used to just remove my ds say no hitting and ignore and carry on reading book to myself or do whatever was doing leave it a min then say we do not hit

ok lets read book every time she hits move her away saying no hitting my ds soon learnt he wanted tom stay with me and stopped hitting

but i second the no hitting her hand as how can you say dont do it its wrong by doing it yourself

just a stern no and move away and do this every time they do learn my ds never went through a hiotting stage again

sorry about spelling lol

have got 17 mo hitter here too. We've shown her how to be gentle by stroking the toy dog and saying 'gently, gently' then when she whacks us we say 'gently, gently with mummy' and she usually starts stroking us instead. If she hits another child we say 'No! That hurts so-and-so' then make a fuss of the other child.
It works sometimes. Hope they grow out of it soon, huh?

Ds is 19 months and I do the hold hand say 'Ow no hitting, it hurts, I don't like it' and then ignore for a minute too.

Agree if you hit she won't understand hitting is wrong as you do it too.

oh we also say 'gentle that's nice' and stroke too if it was a game rather than a tantrum iykwim

My Lo is doing same. Really lashing out at times and scratching. Was thinking of naughty step approach- is 19 months too young?

Same as AntandBee - get her to stroke and say gently. Works quite well so far for us.

my dd of 17 months doing the same. She mainly slaps the face when your close enough if youve told her 'no' or to stop or trying to clean her teeth etc. I say a firm no and that its not nice to slap people because it hurts. Sometimes she breaks into smiles, sometimes does it again and just recently she has then gone on to kind of slap herself. I think makiing too much of a big deal is not the way to go as it didnt seem to get anywhere with dd so im continuing my firm 'nos' hoping that shell grow out of it.