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Four year old

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Check2223334 · 23/03/2023 20:48

I’m worried about my four year old son, he’s had issues now with certain things for around a year. He’s speech is excellent from the age of 2 I would say advanced, but he’s really struggling with i think sensory issues, he is hysterical about certain noises handryers , wind , blenders and wants ear defenders on for this. He will scream at the top of his voice in busy public places if for example he can’t have something or it’s time to leave. He’s started hitting me occasionally. He is always on the go and hyperactive running shouting jumping but can play independently for a short while. He is really obsessed with toy vehicles that’s all he wants to play with. He can’t cope with surprises or change and needs to know what’s happening each day or becomes very anxious and upset. When we are in busy places indoors with other children he seems to become over stimulated and will run up a down the room clenching his jaw or will just end up in tantrums. He will only play with older children who are relatives , children his own age maybe along side but not with them from what I have seen. There are not many foods he will eat which I think is sensory. His sleep at night time is fine apart from co sleeping with me now.

I’m asking for other parents opinions on wether it sounds like this could be something more than normal pre school age behaviour ? I’ve asked nursery for an opinion but the manager said she hasn’t personally spent enough time with him lately to comment, she didn’t even ask other staff members.

Do I just wait for school to see how he gets on ? I really am nervous as I don’t think he’ll cope in reception being a summer born also.

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Check2223334 · 23/03/2023 20:49

He’s also started biting his fingers when stressed.

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skkyelark · 23/03/2023 22:31

I think there's enough there to warrant looking into, ideally getting the process rolling before he starts school (won't hurt if it's nothing; if it's something, wait times are long). Could you ask his keyworker or the room leader at nursery? They would know him better. I'd also get in touch with your HV and ask for a review based on what you've said here, sensory difficulties, very anxious around changes to routine/surprises, doesn't play with same-aged peers.

If he's summer born, could you consider deferring his reception start?

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