Worried about 3 year olds writing/reading

[Chocolateisnice]

My daughter has excellent speech, she speaks in full sentences and you can start to have a normal conversation with her. She often asks how different characters feel and what they are doing when reading her stories.
However, her nursery teacher mentioned that she should be able to recognise her name, letters and numbers. I have tried at home and she can't do it. Also, if I what does door begin with, she cannot answer and will say a random letter.
Now I am worried about her development... should I be concerned?
She will start reception next year, and will be 4 in August (she is one of the youngest in her class).
Thank you for any help or suggestions.

I think the Nursery teacher is barmy. If she's not enjoying trying to learn letters do something with her that she does enjoy. She'll be in school long enough and there's no need to rush these things.

The main thing her Reception Teacher will want from her is that she can put her own coat on and off, can sit quietly and listen to a story can eat her lunch unsupervised and can wipe her own bum! All these things are much more important that getting her to read now

Ignore the nursery teacher...please!
Yes it's helpful if she can recognise her name (for her coat peg) but other than that.. do not worry about it.. she's 3!

For school she needs to be able to get her own shoes and coat on, eat her lunch, sit on the mat and listen, and go to the loo by herself.

Learning to read etc is taught in a specific format (phonics) and it's easier to cock it up at home than teach it correctly (and avoid youtube american stuff)

Honestly I've been a TA for 20 years and once she's in school she will pick up reading, numbers etc very quickly, the life skills are FAR more important to have when she starts!

My DS had no interest in reading at 3 and couldn't do this when starting school ( he could just about recognise his name but didn't know what matters were in it), 7 years later he's the only boy in his class going to grammar school so I wouldn't worry.

Totally agree. DS could not have been less interested in letters or reading at 3. Started school at 4.5 and was writing sentences by October half-term. Even the Reception Teacher was surprised.

Hi chocolate, your nursery teacher sounds a bit crazy! My DS is also 4 in August. Youngest in the year too when he starts school. He couldn’t give a damn about letters and absolutely cannot recognise his name. He also has excellent speech, I’m not worried at all. They’ve got a lot of years ahead to care about numbers on a door. Your daughter sounds perfectly fine. As previous poster has mentioned I’m focusing on all the life skills - going to toilet independently, putting shoes away neatly, and getting dressed without my help. He’s really into this stuff so hope that helps.