My 5yo DD has recently the last month or so become really possessive over me.She has always been a mummy's girl, and we enjoy a very close and affectionate relationship which is lovely, but it has escalated so that now she is rejecting DH and resenting 1yo sister quite abit ( its ramped up since her sister became more able to assert herself and fight for my attention too) She has been pushing 1yo off my lap saying 'mummy's mine' crossly, and gets jealous if baby gets anything she doesn't....a new item of clothing, 1-1 attention etc.
She has also been resisting DH doing things with her such as bedtime routine and keeps coming upto me whilst smirking whispering in my ear 'I love you more than daddy'.I have said to her that she may feel that way and its OK if she does, but that whilst I love her lots her daddy also does and would like to spend time with her too.I did get quite cross with her today as I was trying to get housework done but she was refusing to go upstairs to bed because she wanted me to do her routine but it wasn't my night (we alternate) I do always say I will go up and give her a cuddle and give her a chance to chat once I'm done sorting the housework.
I spend a fair amount of 1-1 time with her and shower her with affection, so not sure what else I can do to stop the jealousy and possessiveness.I know DD gets annoyed that she gets told off for things that baby doesn't, but obviously she is much older so this is going to be the case.We do calmly and gently tell 1yo no and to be gentle if she has hit older DD, pulled her hair etc to try and be fair.
I feel sorry for 1yo sometimes as she rarely gets me to herself much and i was able to give DD1 so much more attention at that age! :-/